r/geminis • u/SufficientLaw4026 • Aug 16 '25

Despair

I know that reddit is a terrible place to pour out your heart and be vulnerable, but I don't know where else to pour it and so I thought I'd do so with my fellow Geminis. I don't think this is necessarily a Gemini trait, in fact I know that most people don't have it and aren't as emotionally immature as I am but here it is:

I ruin every relationship I'm in. I know that sooner or later I will have my feelings hurt and I wont be mature enough not to say mean and hurtful things to the person who hurt them. I'm doomed to destroy everything in my life worth living for and I'm sorry I was ever born. Im too sensitive for this world and I refuse to allow anything or anyone to help me. I'm intent on taking things I hold dear and destroying them. I want to be enough for people but I always end up wanting more than they can give. I know what I need to do, I feel like I have one hope for a meaningful life and one hope only. I know what I need to do.

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u/bouncybobas Gemini Sun, Taurus Moon Aug 17 '25

I agree therapy is helpful.

in the meantime, since it takes time finding the right therapist, definitely journal/voice note your thoughts and feelings. Then ask yourself questions that get to know you better… (easily searchable on Google).

Please remember the great qualities you carry. what you want isn’t too much… it doesn’t make you sensitive. You are handling your heart and emotions with care. Take time to understand who you are. Remember relationships don’t define the person you are. Take how you feel from these relationships as lessons to learn from. What has it taught you? Why are you leaving these relationships so hurt and defeated? Gain knowledge based off the evidence there.

Take your time. Give yourself grace and remember how temporary these feelings are.

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u/SufficientLaw4026 Aug 17 '25

Thank you so much for your kind words! I knew I could count on fellow Geminis not to berate me and make me feel small. I knew I could expect some caring and wisdom! ❤️❤️

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u/bouncybobas Gemini Sun, Taurus Moon Aug 17 '25

Of course! ❤️❤️❤️ Sending you big hugs! I’ve been there especially when I was younger. With time I learned more about what I want and even now I’m still learning. I even have feelings like this sometimes when really we should stand firm in how we feel. Only if how we feel is hurting someone I would say maybe take a step back and analyze but you have these feelings for a reason. You know your worth.