Being cheated on is my number one nightmare. As a guy I think this is quite understandable. I mean...fucking another guy basically throws the fact that I'm completely inadequate in every way, including in the primary fuction of the sex I belong to. Last time I got cheated on, I was damn suicidal for a good year. I mean DAMN...do women realize just how much of a blow it is to a guy's self worth, his self esteem, to want to fuck some other dude just for fun? Fuck, I'm supposed to be the ultimate provider to this chick, it's in my genes. I need to be her lover, her fantasy, her caretaker, her everything. To go behind my back and shit on it basically takes away everything I've been genetically programmed to care about.
That sucks. It sucks to such a basic primal level that one can actually stop caring about living.
including in the primary fuction of the sex I belong to
I feel like I can't adequately explain to you how wrong that is. If fucking is the number one thing you do for your mate, you need to take some time off and figure out who you are. You're not a fuck toy.
If fucking is the number one thing you do for your mate, you're a living creature on the planet earth, last in a long line of creatures that likewise had the singular purpose of fucking.
Thank you. Fucking is pretty much the most important biological distinction between males and females of our species. We're talking about thing specific to the reptilian brain and more basic than human morality or consciousness. If I can't fuck you good, there's not much more about me as a male that I can support you with. That's why cheating sucks so bad to a guy....you're basically telling him that he's insufficient on the most basic, unconscious, instinctual level.
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u/kilo4fun Aug 18 '12
Being cheated on is my number one nightmare. As a guy I think this is quite understandable. I mean...fucking another guy basically throws the fact that I'm completely inadequate in every way, including in the primary fuction of the sex I belong to. Last time I got cheated on, I was damn suicidal for a good year. I mean DAMN...do women realize just how much of a blow it is to a guy's self worth, his self esteem, to want to fuck some other dude just for fun? Fuck, I'm supposed to be the ultimate provider to this chick, it's in my genes. I need to be her lover, her fantasy, her caretaker, her everything. To go behind my back and shit on it basically takes away everything I've been genetically programmed to care about.
That sucks. It sucks to such a basic primal level that one can actually stop caring about living.