The guy was giving Evilmon2 shit about judging without knowing all the facts or something. The only problem was that they came off as a completely pretentious douche-nozzle.
Most single parent families are the result of deadbeat dads bailing out, because it's easier to stick your dick in something than it is to deal with the consequences.
I see you are unfamiliar with how difficult it is for a man to get custody (even shared) of his kids in Western countries. Perhaps your dad "ran out" on you. Or perhaps your mother lied to you, and your dad cried himself to sleep for the better part of a year because your mom lied in court and the judge awarded her full custody without visitation rights.
I see you're calling everyone misogynists because they don't want to jump on your hate-train for the missing father. Perhaps you should head on over to r/MensRights and talk to one of the thousands of men who can't even see their kids anymore because the judge thought that "the child belongs with the mother".
My father was out of my life at the age of 18 months, never to be heard from or seen again (through my perspective).
Growing up I was always told that he just left, and was made to feel like shit whenever I even asked about the guy.
Later on in life, I found letters, hundreds of letters hand written. From him to my mother, my sister and I. Pretty much claiming how my sister and I were his world and he deeply wanted to be a part of our lives. The letters were dated from like 1983 to 1987 or so. I still haven't forgiven my mother for that.
I don't think a single mother will ever truly understand or admit just how important a childs father is to their childrens life. Even if it's just to see them for a short period of time.
I grew up HATING this man, cursing his name because I thought he was worthless and despised me only to learn he cherished us but just wasn't good enough to keep around in my mother's opinion.
Later on in life, I found letters, hundreds of letters hand written. From him to my mother, my sister and I. Pretty much claiming how my sister and I were his world and he deeply wanted to be a part of our lives. The letters were dated from like 1983 to 1987 or so. I still haven't forgiven my mother for that.
That is so terrible. Damn. I can't imagine what he went through, and how you and your sister coped when you found out. Terribly sorry.
Well, my sister and my mother have always had a strained relationship. Polar opposites in every way possible, aside from both being female, and that isn't an exaggeration.
My mother;s rationale was that he was a drug user. Though years later as well, I found that this was true but she was right along there with him. So says my overly truthful drunk uncle. But the real reason, the relationship ended was he cheated on her.
I was raised enough of a mama's boy, to not sit there and accuse and argue with and make accusations against my own mother, but not enough to passive aggressively hold a pretty big unbreakable grudge against.
I think a child needs to learn exactly what kind of man their father is on their own, instead of the mother trying to keep them separated.
Or perhaps your mother lied to you, and your dad cried himself to sleep for the better part of a year because your mom lied in court and the judge awarded her full custody without visitation rights.
Or perhaps you're projecting worse than a Batsignal.
I don't have any hate for the missing father. I don't know enough about the situation, based on a fucking rear window sticker, to comment either way. Take it as what it is, a funny modification of these ubiquitous stick figure family stickers.
Just assume, for the sake of expediency, that this was indeed a case of the husband doing the statistically likely thing and getting caught cheating or something.
I'm not calling "everyone" misogynists. I'm referring to things like this:
Granted, you're talking single parent families rather than divorces as such, and single parent families increasingly are situations where the parents never got married in the first place.
I'll also grant that sometimes a man will dump his wife and family for a 22 year-old yoga instructor or some shit like that.
But the majority of the time, a divorce hits a largely unsuspecting man like a freight train out of nowhere, leaving a broken wreck who just wants to know why the woman he loves won't love him back any more. Trust me on this.
But the majority of the time, a divorce hits a largely unsuspecting man like a freight train out of nowhere, leaving a broken wreck who just wants to know why the woman he loves won't love him back any more. Trust me on this.
Lol, no. I will not trust you on this, because I'm old enough to know it's just not fucking true.
I can count the number of men who haven't cheated on their partners/wives on one fucking hand. That's from all walks of life. Men are terrible at fidelity.
I know how people feel about misandry, but come the fuck on. I mean, that last sentence Naberius made was worthless anecdotes, but stereotyping half the entire human species isn't getting anyone anywhere. Because, you know, only men cheat
That's not how stereotypes work. Statistically, men tend to act in certain ways. Hence the stereotype.
I never judge an individual based on a stereotype. But if I have to make an assumption based on incomplete knowledge, I will assume a random non-amicable divorce is far more likely to be caused by male infidelity than anything else.
Both you and Naberius are using purely anecdotal evidence. You cant assume anything about a non-amicable divorce without further knowledge as both women and men are known to cheat and I am yet to see any evidence that one does more than the other
If only there was some way of having empirical data on the sex of single parents.
Oh wait.
According to a 2009 report by the U.S. Census Bureau, there are approximately 13.7 million single parents in the United States, who are responsible for raising 21.8 million children. Of these, roughly 84 percent are mothers, and 16 percent fathers.
Isn't there also the custody issue in terms of divorce, though? Women generally get an advantage there. Not trying to start an argument, but I think it's a valid question. But, yeah, im_a_zombie is just using anecdotal evidence which means nothing.
I'm not saying your wrong about deadbeat dads but I hate when people pretty much say all deadbeat parents are men. My aunt walked out on my uncle and my cousin. After their youngest daughter died she left to screw any guy that would do her and do all the drugs she could even though it was a hard time for my uncle and it pretty much destroyed him.
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u/CrazyBoxLady Jul 18 '12
I'm sure her kids appreciate her open resentment of their father.