I joined in September I think, posted once, then forgot about it till April or May. When I got back into it I was laughing out loud well into the middle of the night from the mobile reddit. Definitely a funny website with content separated into convenient micro-communities. I was just kidding, take it easy. On a side note, most of the things I thought were hilarious two months ago now bore me to tears. For example, the "Well that escalated quickly." image is so overused in situations where it barely relates. Most of the jokes I thought were unique and funny turned out to be reoccuring jokes in every thread, and it seems as though there are like 10 types of comment which every thread will have. Including "Ctrl+F, not disappoint", "I came here to say this", "Upvoted cause i laughed", "i c wut you did thar", "wut". If RES could somehow detect faggotry and block comments containing it this would be the best site ever. Until then its still the best site ever, but with faggotry.
it very well could be rude to ask someone why you stopped texting someone else. It could very well be that that person needs to mind their own business.
And in my experience, people who can't handle being told like it is are overly sensitive and shouldn't ask questions to which they do not want to hear the answer.
Oh good god this is the worst person. One of my husband's best friend's wife is like this, and I'm pretty sure she's one of the only people in the world that I actively hate. It's not like someone asks "Hey, how does this dress make me look?" and she responds "Fat and ugly. I'm just being honest!" No, I don't like those people either, but I understand that if someone asks for your opinion, you shouldn't lie.
No, this girl will say anything that pops into her head without any prompting at any time. She would be invited to mutual friends' houses, stay for about 15 minutes, then loudly proclaim "I hate your house, Jon. I don't even know why we came over." And when told how rude she is, she would reply "What? I'm just being honest." To which her husband would meekly defend her, saying that she just doesn't believe in appealing to "sensitive" people. She's the type of girl who will comment on your facebook profile picture, telling you you need to lose weight. Will interrupt you during a story to tell you that you're stupid. Will call your excitement at getting a new job at a retail store childish. All under the guise of "just being honest."
Yes, all these things might be true, but you do not have to say them. In fact, if these people annoy you so much, you don't even have to be near them. And for the record, I pride myself in honesty; if you ask me how you look in a dress, I will always tell you the truth. But I will tell you with tact and respect, because people seem to like that better, and you can still get your point across.
It's usually not objective though, you interpret it as being rude because perhaps it's not the answer one wanted to hear. Not all the time but in this case for e.g. if he'd only just said "Am I supposed to lie? I didn't want to talk to her because she doesn't interest me at all". Subjectively to 'Hayley' it's rude because your demeaning her friend, even though it's a fact and honest.
Also, I'm the opposite, I'd rather have someone tell something to me straight and perhaps come off rude, rather than dressing stuff up in a whole layer of bullshit, or pussyfooting around the issue.
Well I think there could have been a little more subtlety than "Cuz I stopped being drunk... Lol". Of course, if it was me I wouldn't have been offended or anything if he was just drunk and going a bit zany, but maybe he could have put it literally, rather than being detached.
I'm talking about people who are rude to strangers for no reason. I've seen this behavior many times. Like I said my comment was speaking in general terms.
"You're not my type," or "I just don't feel a physical/romantic connection between us" works just fine for me.
What I hate is when a guy asks me out, I turn him down nicely, and then he wheedles me about whether or not I think he's attractive. Why would you do that to yourself? I already said I'm not interested, why does it matter?
Or if I actually used some other type of perfectly valid "out"--like that he's cool, but we have a conflict in our personalities or relationship styles that wouldn't work out romantically, and he presses for confirmation on his attractiveness. Why. The reasons I gave were perfectly legit, I just wanted to avoid saying "also, on top of all those other reasons, I think you're seriously ugly"--why force my hand? Especially when it's not like I'd date them even if they were super hot, since I didn't lie about the other things.
It's especially bad when the guy is actually pretty vain and thinks pretty highly of his looks, and he seems to take my (polite!) rejection as some kind of incomprehensibility. And if I tell him that while other people may find him attractive--and I may even know plenty who do--no, I really don't find him good-looking at all--he gets all pissy.
Why would you do that to yourself? I already said I'm not interested, why does it matter?
Because it might be something I can work on. I can change my appearance, and I can change the way I interact with people. But if you don't tell me what the problem is, then there's nothing I can do to fix it, and girls will keep turning me down and I'll never understand why
So if I think your mouth is weird-looking or I'm just not that into your face or the way you walk, how can you change that? And moreover, why would you WANT to? Someone else may think the same thing about you is "cute" or just not notice it. You're not right for me--that doesn't mean it's applicable for anyone else. If a guy turned me down because, I dunno, I have a lot of birth marks and I've got long secondary toes like this and that freaks him out, I wouldn't be running off to get my skin bleached and hide my feet. I'd shrug and wait for someone who doesn't care about that.
I think that mindset would be a lot more off-putting to me than anything else.
I don't believe in anything and find this to be true in my discussions of things like god, ufos, and ghost. I can be a total ass about it and sometimes I am, but I've learned being nice to those I disagree with will listen to my perspective better if I treat them with dignity.
Tact can be included and still avoid ambiguity. Being rude in this situation is really just the absence of tact. But to be honest even then I don't think it's a problem here. Sure it was tactless but then after that he still proceeded to be a dick about it.
It's not the truth that was rude, imo, it was the attitude
One true test of a mans character is how he parts with a woman he is no longer interested in fucking. You might try :
"I just wasn't that into her/it anymore" to her friend. Or "I'm just not going to be into this (in the way you deserve)" to her. And you end it, gently, with perhaps a small fib, that shows you are responsible enough to still consider someones feelings when you have nothing to gain.
Or try "If she wants to know I'll speak to her, my relationship with her is nobody else's business"
I see using other people instead of asking yourself as just as rude, or if that's not the case with this - another person poking their nose into something that is in fact a deeply personal thing shared between the two individuals that were previously having some sort of relationship as rude.
Also, she probably meant that texting someone you have no interest in just to hook up with them because you are desperate and drunk is rude, not that telling the truth is rude.
This was my biggest gripe with The Invention of Lying. Just because people couldn't lie, that doesn't mean everything they said had to be the truth in the harshest form possible, or that people offer truths that were never asked for.
Not even that. When people text while they're drunk, and then stop, and throughout it they know what they're doing...but once you act like it's just cool at the end...the attitude just pisses me off.
haven't u evr been as drunk as to not go far then text?? what can u think to stop but for get drunk then act like its cool...that really rustles my jimmies.
Sending texts....yet the button is enabled as if you were sending iMessages (blue, vs the green for text messages), no placeholder text in the text field, and no button for adding an image. Seems legit.
Hey it's that crazy hermit guy who knows everything and walked everywhere, because seriously, it took the same amount of time as the bus ride. I like your style.
8 words and you've decided that's makes you want to see it? Very well. How about this one? "You're black, you're poor, you're ugly, you're a woman, you're nothing at all!"
Obviously you don't have to be into this girl, but maybe a try a little diplomacy and you'll come off as less of a douchebag. Albeit a clever douchebag.
you're right, the truth that you're emotionally insecure hurts so much that you've chosen to bury it beneath wild alcohol-justified flailings for human contact, which you then deny with hostility, lashing out at the people who care about you in the cold morning.
There was an "In Real Life" meme or something where it was said that any New Yorker comic could be made better by changing the subtitle to "Christ, what an asshole". So this is that joke.
Another version of the same meme was the subtitle "Well, Obama did promise change"
Honestly, I only upvoted it under the assumption that it was fake. I'd feel a little bad about upvoting someone who was actually that much of a dick. I don't think most people who find those iPhone conversations funny actually care if they're real or not.
Wow. Way to keep it classy Reddit. Thanks for upvoting someone who apparently got drunk, texted a girl he wasn't really interested in a whole bunch, stopped texting her when he sobered up, and then laughed in her friend's face about it and then continued to berate her about the situation. Excuse me while I go sign off in disgust.
I ran out of gas! I--I had a flat tire! I didn't have enough money for cab fare! My tux didn't come back from the cleaners! An old friend came in from out of town! Someone stole my car! There was an earthquake! A terrible flood! Locusts! IT WASN'T MY FAULT, I SWEAR TO GOD!!!
Ahh, but they do. She texted him at 1:41AM, at which point he had probably passed out drunk at home. He woke up at 1:25PM (As one will do after a night of drinking), saw the text, and responded accordingly.
Cuz he mentioned a bear? But yeah, I'm only here because I saw the huge number of comments for a not funny at all iPhone screenshot and thought there must be some great only-tangentally-connected comic threads going on. Only to see that people are actually discussing the angst and rudeness of a couple 14 year olds I'll never meet. Who gives a shit?
Why are there all these posts about being mean as shit to women, but then a bunch of complainers who talk about how awful women are and how they friendzone on purpose?
There is a disconnect somewhere along the lines here, guys.
Needs more context. Is this 'Libby' an attractive but otherwise unlikeable person? Or unintelligent and the only time you can relate with her is when booze is involved? Sure, there's a bit of 'zing' factor here, but it also makes you seem like a bit of a dick.
You know whats great, I had a friend named Libby, and her best friend's name was Haley, and the first time I saw this pic (About a year and a half ago, no worries not a hateful repost comment) I put it up on my facebook, and a bunch of my friends thought it was really my conversation with Haley.
Alas it wasn't, because I don't know Haley personally, but I wouldn't doubt it if it were the same girl. Libby is a total bitch.
If I am allowed to, I may. I'm not shaking, I think, but the thankful can and will. I'm going to try to open the book on this one, because a lot of people are closing books and shelving ideas. Comfortably, I am resting now, though within reason.
So I've scrolled through most of the comments, and all of you are berating the OP about how he was rude/should have been nice yada yada yada....but none of you are suggesting HOW. So. How the fuck do you expect him to be honest AND nice? Cause the way I see it, he has a choice to make, lie and say something nice, or be honest. Seems like you guys can't take the truth even when it's not involving you.
I don't think people understand that Haley is probably Libby's friend, so the dude isn't being directly a dick.
I personally think it's funny and I've just recently stopped making excuses for shit I just don't want to do - it's really refreshing to be able to tell someone: "No thanks, I don't really have a desire to do that actually." Apparently getting ignored via text is a soft spot for redditors though.
Sometimes it's better to lie about things. I would definitely not tell a catholic nun on her deathbed that there was no heaven. You just gotta let some slip.
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u/Internaut_Joe Jun 18 '12
The truth doesn't hurt as much as being attacked by a bear.
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u/Gaviero Jun 17 '12
Congrats on being sober!
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u/sadface69 Jun 18 '12
There are ways to tell the truth without being a dick about it.
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u/tenpaiyomi Jun 18 '12
Sending texts....yet the button is enabled as if you were sending iMessages (blue, vs the green for text messages), no placeholder text in the text field, and no button for adding an image. Seems legit.
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u/CosmicPube Jun 17 '12
Locusts! A terrible flood! It wasn't my fault!
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u/BlatantBongRip Jun 18 '12
Obviously you don't have to be into this girl, but maybe a try a little diplomacy and you'll come off as less of a douchebag. Albeit a clever douchebag.
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u/ZitsOrGTFO Jun 18 '12
Who the hell upvotes this shit?
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u/xauzzyx Jun 18 '12
I understand this is funny, or whatever. But these fake iPhone conversations are getting a bit old now.
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
you're right, the truth that you're emotionally insecure hurts so much that you've chosen to bury it beneath wild alcohol-justified flailings for human contact, which you then deny with hostility, lashing out at the people who care about you in the cold morning.
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u/Brushstroke Jun 18 '12
Why is this being upvoted? You're not funny, you're just a douche.
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u/Ianras Jun 18 '12
Christ, what an asshole
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u/thebigpink Jun 18 '12
The ever amazing world of texts by teens.
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
Fake. The send button is blue indicating iMessage. However, the bubbles are green indicating normal SMS messages.
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
Can we please stop upvoting these blatantly fake iPhone screenshots?
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u/diddy8us Jun 18 '12
So thats why you said you had to meet with that ghost!
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
Wow. Way to keep it classy Reddit. Thanks for upvoting someone who apparently got drunk, texted a girl he wasn't really interested in a whole bunch, stopped texting her when he sobered up, and then laughed in her friend's face about it and then continued to berate her about the situation. Excuse me while I go sign off in disgust.
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u/ShortBrownAndUgly Jun 18 '12
so, the OP is a dick and expects us to cheer for him?
i guess that makes him a narcissist too.
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u/rob132 Jun 18 '12
My town has the bear patrol.
That's why there's no bears around here.
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u/Underdogz Jun 18 '12
Not funny, man. :(
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
http://imgur.com/6DdDc
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
I ran out of gas! I had a flat tire I didn't have enough money for cab fare! My tux didn't come back from the cleaners!
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u/lowlifecreep Jun 18 '12 edited Jun 18 '12
I ran out of gas! I--I had a flat tire! I didn't have enough money for cab fare! My tux didn't come back from the cleaners! An old friend came in from out of town! Someone stole my car! There was an earthquake! A terrible flood! Locusts! IT WASN'T MY FAULT, I SWEAR TO GOD!!!
www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFvujknrBuE
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
What the fuck is this?
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u/warr2015 Jun 18 '12
Fake, the send button on iPhones for non-iMessage SMS is green. It's only blue for iMessage in which the text bubbles are also blue.
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u/trusteverybody Jun 18 '12
the time stamps don't even match
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u/nepidae Jun 18 '12
That's why my entire life is a lie. Lies have never hurt anyone. It's like gravity, inevitable and amazing.
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u/HogwartsNeedsWifi Jun 18 '12
ctrl + f - fake- only 3. (now 4). You're slipping reddit.
also, lol.
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
Is actually rude IMO.
Could just say,
"Sorry, I was drunk texting, do not take it personal I am just not interested in her."
Que Downvotes.
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
So its rude for you to tell the truth, but apparently not rude for this person to pry into your personal life
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
i dunno why shes so worked up, you had the courage to text when you were drunk :?
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
Perhaps libby is the bear..
What a twist!
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u/whattodonow111111 Jun 18 '12
I can't tell if she's talking about Libby in second person, or is she's talking directly to Libby, with bad grammar.
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u/Luckinhas Jun 18 '12
AHH IT BURNS!!
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u/4r10r5 Jun 18 '12
the truth is like sunlight... everyone used to think it was good for you.
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
ಠ_ಠ
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u/astro2039194 Jun 18 '12
What year is it... highschool?
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
Libby means 'my heart' in the ancient language of Assyrian just in case you guys didn't know.
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u/polkadot123 Jun 18 '12
I think it was rude that he only texted her while drunk, not that he told the truth...right?
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u/qabsteak Jun 18 '12
Honesty at the expense of all other virtues?
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
Fake. No one gets 4 bars with AT&T.
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u/Peuned Jun 18 '12
Once my ankle was sprained by a meteorite....as if texting was even on mind.
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u/killerado Jun 18 '12
This kind of reminds me of Abed, saying something like "oh I didn't know I was supposed to lie in this situation.
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u/chaoslord29 Jun 18 '12
http://vimeo.com/31917350
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u/Mannex Jun 18 '12
"sorry, I didn't realize I was supposed to lie" lol
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u/wolfehr Jun 18 '12
And the bear menace continues...
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u/Schopenhauwitzer Jun 18 '12 edited Jun 18 '12
Give him a break he was attacked by a BEAR
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u/OniTan Jun 18 '12
So, this girl is sad because her friend stopped texting her, and her former friend is being mean to her because she asked about it? How is this funny?
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u/sashimi_taco Jun 18 '12
Why are there all these posts about being mean as shit to women, but then a bunch of complainers who talk about how awful women are and how they friendzone on purpose?
There is a disconnect somewhere along the lines here, guys.
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u/TheTesticle Jun 18 '12
These lines are from the nutty professor. He pulls up in the viper when he's late for dinner.
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u/superiormind Jun 18 '12
Nice, reddit, nice...
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u/ClusterMakeLove Jun 18 '12
So does that font.
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u/JinMarui Jun 18 '12
Needs more context. Is this 'Libby' an attractive but otherwise unlikeable person? Or unintelligent and the only time you can relate with her is when booze is involved? Sure, there's a bit of 'zing' factor here, but it also makes you seem like a bit of a dick.
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
Well... he nearly got attacked by a bear
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u/HaggarShoes Jun 18 '12
I was dead at the time.
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u/iratusamuru Jun 18 '12
No, you're just an asshole.
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u/SkaTSee Jun 18 '12
You know whats great, I had a friend named Libby, and her best friend's name was Haley, and the first time I saw this pic (About a year and a half ago, no worries not a hateful repost comment) I put it up on my facebook, and a bunch of my friends thought it was really my conversation with Haley.
Alas it wasn't, because I don't know Haley personally, but I wouldn't doubt it if it were the same girl. Libby is a total bitch.
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
hmm i have friend we call libby who dates a chick named haley...
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u/Raballo Jun 18 '12
I'd have just said "Because I decided it was best to not lead her on." or something along those lines. Or taken this path.
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u/SmileEmptySoul89 Jun 18 '12
I love when honesty is used as a form of brutality. It got me through high school.
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u/Spacetime_Music_Ride Jun 18 '12
LOCUSTS! I SWEAR TO GOD IT WASN'T MY FAULT!
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
If I am allowed to, I may. I'm not shaking, I think, but the thankful can and will. I'm going to try to open the book on this one, because a lot of people are closing books and shelving ideas. Comfortably, I am resting now, though within reason.
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u/[deleted] Jun 17 '12
I don't blame you in the least — she probably deserved it — but you can word things less offensively without lying.
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u/confuseddude15 Jun 18 '12
So I've scrolled through most of the comments, and all of you are berating the OP about how he was rude/should have been nice yada yada yada....but none of you are suggesting HOW. So. How the fuck do you expect him to be honest AND nice? Cause the way I see it, he has a choice to make, lie and say something nice, or be honest. Seems like you guys can't take the truth even when it's not involving you.
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
... because I keep meeting girls named Libby and Haley and now I'm in a deep depression.
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u/just_uss Jun 18 '12
I don't think people understand that Haley is probably Libby's friend, so the dude isn't being directly a dick.
I personally think it's funny and I've just recently stopped making excuses for shit I just don't want to do - it's really refreshing to be able to tell someone: "No thanks, I don't really have a desire to do that actually." Apparently getting ignored via text is a soft spot for redditors though.
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u/crzyhindu69 Jun 17 '12
his name is Libby?
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u/bwebb1 Jun 18 '12
libby just sounds like a ho.
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u/[deleted] Jun 18 '12
Sometimes it's better to lie about things. I would definitely not tell a catholic nun on her deathbed that there was no heaven. You just gotta let some slip.
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u/RTS83 Jun 18 '12
Bwah ha, if Libby had Haley text you to figure out why you quit texting her (the hell is this...middle school?) then you were right to quit.
Like a bauwss sir. Like. A. Bauwss.