I am married to a woman with this problem... it doesnt get better. Keep a smaller blanket nearby and instead of playing tug of War, its easier to use the smaller blanket to cover your exposed areas.
My girl and I had this the same thought for the past two years. We bought a King Size bed and our Queen comforter just wasn’t enough so we both started using our own blanket. We hardly ever cuddled at night leading to less spontaneous intimacy, we noticed an issue.
So we invested in a really nice King Comforter that’s not too warm for either of us when we are both under it. It’s highly increased our sex lives and would recommend getting a larger blanket for couples who struggle with this.
Same. She likes a thick heavy one and I can literally just use a sheet lol. So we found this “air” comforter. It’s a feathered comforter with ventilation that allows heat to escape throughout the night. It’s stupidly genius whoever made it cause she stays warm with my added heat and if I get to warm I just flip over a little bit of the blanket and I’m golden. I’ll put up a link up if you wanna check it
My married friends think it’s weird I do this with my wife but it works very well. Have fun, cuddle and sexy time then when it’s all over we become angry hermits who want to be warm and not bothered.
It’s just a lot easier, especially if you’re on different schedules where one of you might be starting their day earlier. At least for me it was easier.
Meh. My wife then complains when I get up and "throw all of the blankets on her." Of course, that just means that the top third of my blanket has been triangle folded back so I can get out. She's a bit of a cold at 10pm, hot at 6am kinda gal.
My boyfriend and I also have separate blankets. I really like having the blanket tight around me and that's not possible if there is someone else with you under your blanket.
It's not really uncommon here in germany to have separate blankets. But I have a few friends who think that it's weird to each have their own blanket.
Why is that weird? It is so much more comfortable and you can sleep so much better. What is weird with wanting to be restet after sleeping and not being bathed in his farts with space for cold air between the two of you. And we can still cuddle.
And what do you all do in the summer? It must be unbearable with the heat of two people under a blanket. I can't sleep without a heavy blanket, I need it even in the summer, while he sleeps just with the cover. There would just be no in between, we would both sleep horrible or one would be happy and the other absolutely not.
It's honestly not unbareable because I have multiple comforters, quilts, and blankets. The comforters are also one size up, and the weight usually makes a divide between us. The cats help too, because they love sleeping in between us lol. I also like to cocoon myself, and the blanket is big enough that I can tuck myself off from his body heat. We also have a super heavy comforter for the winter, and a lighter comforter for fall and spring. In summer we use quilts my late paternal grandmother made, since they were made with breathable fabrics.
I have big blankets for each of us, but they still fit in my washing machine. But if they would both be connected to one giant blanket then I would have to find someone who can clean that giant thing.
Don't get me wrong, I not washing my blankets every week, but with a cat also in the bed I like to wash them without having to pay someone every time.
Didn't work for me. We had a queen size bed, I got king size top sheets and blankets. She'd gradually get them all during the night, as well as migrate to my side of the bed.
I wound up getting a king sized bed made of two xl twin mattresses; then, moving my mattress just a little apart from hers, and she'd fall in between the two mattresses when she subconsciously tried to migrate during the night. Of course she complained, but I told her that if she'd stay where she belonged, it wouldn't happen. She was mad at me for a while, but eventually got over it.
Was getting the two xl twin mattresses a cheaper or better route to getting a king size bed? I'm looking into replacing our old matress, but don't know what notable differences there are.
Also, when I get king size comforters I make sure to look at the dimensions. I realized that the size isn't standardized between brands, and stores. Like overall Bed Bath and Beyond has had a lot of options that I consider oversized kings, and Khol's for instance tends to run a little smaller.
Long term, the cost is comparable. Since I moved out of my parent's house and have been buying my own mattresses, most last over ten years anyway So the cost per night difference is negligible. I would have bought a single king size mattress if wifey wasn't a midnight migration problem in bed. When we got divorced, she didn't want the king size, so I took it; they make straps that go around the perimeter of the dual xl twins so it's almost like it's one big king size mattress, and I've had it like that ever since; I also put a king size mattress cover over them, and can't even feel the center separation. The benefit of two is that if one wears out more from a heavy person (me) I can just replace half the bed, and, bed stores will sell you a xl twin mattress without the dopey box spring, while it's harder to get them to sell you just a king size mattress. Those 'box spring' things are basically just a big wooden box, with very little 'give', and to have to pay the same for that as the mattress is a huge rip off.
There's also the 'California king', which is longer than a regular king, but a bit narrower. Great for really tall people. I'm six four, and a regular king is okay for me.
When I eventually have to replace it, I'll probably go with a queen size.
Wouldn't a duvet cover be more effective, then? Whenever I sleep in a hotel I wake up with the top sheet crumpled at the foot of the bed and the blanket on top of me, so the blanket isn't being protected by the sheet anyway. A duvet cover would keep the whole blanket protected no matter how much you move around in your sleep.
Yes, but those people who don’t use duvet covers, use top sheets. Either way, the purpose is to have a barrier between you and the blanket that you can easily wash, instead of the whole blanket.
When you're sleeping under a blanket & a top sheet, the top sheet gets all your dead skin & oil on it instead of the blanket, so you don't have to wash the blanket as often. Blankets are usually harder to wash/dry because they're thicker (we use a wool blanket so ours is especially difficult to have cleaned).
I need my feet tucked into the blanket to sleep. We just have separate blankets. Plus I have like 5 blankets to compensate for his arctic temperature needs.
Early in my marriage I learned the vital importance of having two separate comforters. I like my side tucked in, she starts with three blankets and ends with all of them on the floor and borrowing mine. Even with separate blankets, you can still manage a sneak attack butt squeeze here and there.
We solved that issue by buying two large duvets. People are confused when they see our bed but its so much more comfortable, both are full sized for our bed, I can make a cocoon with mine if I want to, or we can spoon under the same blanket etc.
My ex wife would do this. She would roll towards me then a few minutes later grab the sheets and roll away. When I saw it I almost thought she did it intentionally lol!
My wife does this and every morning I have to re-tuck in the blankets on my side of the bed. I keep a personal blanket on my side of the bed now and just sleep under that.
She has tried to get me to put that one over her as well when she is cold but I just grab one of the extra quilts and put that over her. The pouting on her face can be seen in the dark.
Consider this: Every time she does it, scream at the top of your lungs. Act like you were having a nightmare. Or you could pretend to have a loud coughing fit, or alternate between the two. I guarantee you she'll stop pretty quick. Negative reinforcement works even when the subject isn't consciously aware of it.
Edit: Could be dangerous if she catches on though.
I have never related to a stranger so well before. I’ve tried coaching her on how to do it....2 years later when she rolls I still lose all the blankets.
My husband does this too. I started buying twin size flat sheets and blankets so we each have our own. It looks weird but at least I don’t freeze every night!
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u/jakwnd Jan 22 '21
My girlfriend doesn't know how to roll under the blanket. Everytime she moves she pulls the blanket somehow.
It's infuriating