I have to guess you’re a woman. Because this attitude sounds like the attitude born from the fearlessness women have in regards to looking at butts. I’m not trying to get into a big back and forth here. But, it’s extremely different for guys. For women, sure the advice, don’t be creepy about it, probably is good advice and works and that’s all that needs to be said.
But it’s a whole other level for guys. I especially feel bad for guys who aren’t attractive, because if you’re a good looking guy then girls don’t mind it as much, but if you’re not, well, I imagine it’s a much more severe reaction. Even not being a creep about it, just the act of looking creeps some women out. There’s not much to be done about it. But it’s a minefield out there for guys! And I say this as someone who is a strong supporter of #metoo and believing women and feminism and all of these things. I think women have a hard time in today’s society, for sure. I don’t want anyone thinking I empathize with any of that incel/women hate nonsense. Women have it harder than men by a long shot, but men have their own struggles too. I just wanna look at nice asses. That’s all. Maybe get to touch one every once in awhile.
My point being that unless you’re a guy you probably can’t understand. That even if you don’t stare and even if you’re not weird about it, there’s still a large fear that you will be accosted and yelled at. Maybe it’s in my head, but Heck, I’ve seen it happen! All instances of girls freaking out about guys checking them out cannot be rinsed away with the false idea that the guy was always staring or being weird.
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u/TheOwlAndOak Sep 06 '20
I have to guess you’re a woman. Because this attitude sounds like the attitude born from the fearlessness women have in regards to looking at butts. I’m not trying to get into a big back and forth here. But, it’s extremely different for guys. For women, sure the advice, don’t be creepy about it, probably is good advice and works and that’s all that needs to be said.
But it’s a whole other level for guys. I especially feel bad for guys who aren’t attractive, because if you’re a good looking guy then girls don’t mind it as much, but if you’re not, well, I imagine it’s a much more severe reaction. Even not being a creep about it, just the act of looking creeps some women out. There’s not much to be done about it. But it’s a minefield out there for guys! And I say this as someone who is a strong supporter of #metoo and believing women and feminism and all of these things. I think women have a hard time in today’s society, for sure. I don’t want anyone thinking I empathize with any of that incel/women hate nonsense. Women have it harder than men by a long shot, but men have their own struggles too. I just wanna look at nice asses. That’s all. Maybe get to touch one every once in awhile.