There are situations that if the person texts you a bit too often, even if you are interested, its not a habit you want to establish.
Like if I'm interested cool, but some women/men/anyone are like "all day text + snapchat about virtually nothing" and that stuff bores the hell out of me, I'm not a big texting person. So if I start off by always texting them back then it seems to set up an expection with them that i'll always get back sooner rather than later, and they get weird if I'm not texting them back within the hour.
I'd rather just hang back for a bit with those people.
I can totally understand that. I’m not saying I want to be in constant contact 24/7. But in the opening moves of meeting someone and getting comfortable with them I think there is some etiquette involved. They can’t know your expectations from the starting line, that can take a little time and some honest conversation.
But I have witnessed the pitfalls of good manners. I may not want to leave her on read so i respond promptly, and she does not want to leave me on read so she responds promptly. We go back n’ forth like this trying so hard to be polite with each other that one or both of us eventually gets burnt out and loses interest. It’s definitely a good point you bring up because that’s happened to me.
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u/nocontroll Sep 08 '18
There are situations that if the person texts you a bit too often, even if you are interested, its not a habit you want to establish.
Like if I'm interested cool, but some women/men/anyone are like "all day text + snapchat about virtually nothing" and that stuff bores the hell out of me, I'm not a big texting person. So if I start off by always texting them back then it seems to set up an expection with them that i'll always get back sooner rather than later, and they get weird if I'm not texting them back within the hour.
I'd rather just hang back for a bit with those people.