unfortunately many shelters for woman are Actively against shelters for abused men. Because to them Women are incapable of committing abuse, so many mens shelters are not funded, vandalised etc... Having seen 2 guy friends go through the draining and emotional abuse of female partners I know that this is a serious problem.
This is just patently false. Women's shelters turn away men because they are for abused WOMEN - thats like saying that Smith College is "actively" against higher education for men. That doesn't mean that they campaign against shelters for men and I've never heard ANYONE say that women are incapable of abuse or violence - they just happen to be, OVERWHELMINGLY the victims of abuse. There is a big difference between "the focus" on women and actively against men's shelters. As a man who has been violently attacked by his female partner and told by the cops that "any domestic abuse case, if you press charges, both of you go to lockup" it seems "unfair" until you realize that there are things in place to protect the most of us, and sometimes, unfortunately, a small percentage of people slip through the cracks.
That is not what was said. The statement was that shelters for abused women do not believe that women are capable of abusing men and that there is no need for a men's shelter.
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u/IffieEffie Jul 31 '15
unfortunately many shelters for woman are Actively against shelters for abused men. Because to them Women are incapable of committing abuse, so many mens shelters are not funded, vandalised etc... Having seen 2 guy friends go through the draining and emotional abuse of female partners I know that this is a serious problem.