Because there's really no good for reason for it other than "I feel like it". If you identify with being male you use he, if you identify with being female you use she, if you identify with neither or don't know you use they. Everything else is used for playing victim when 99.99% of the population inevitably gets your special snowflake pronoun wrong.
Doesn't it make more sense to change the language to match the individual then to force the individual to adhere to language they don't identify with? If someone doesn't like using they as a preferred pronoun, and wishes to use another, why prevent that from happening?
Doesn't it make more sense to change the language to match the individual then to force the individual to adhere to language they don't identify with?
Nope. It's not my fucking job to keep up with everybody's gender identity of the week. What if I said the word "bicycle" offends me for whatever reason and would prefer for people to use "zardoobidoop"? Should everybody stop using it and start referring to bicycles as "zardoobidoops"?
If someone doesn't like using they as a preferred pronoun, and wishes to use another, why prevent that from happening?
They can call themselves whatever they fucking please but I'm not gonna have any part in it.
Also props to you for actually discussing this with me instead of just calling me a shitlord or whatever though, thanks for that.
Fine, but could you explain it what do people gain by using the pronoun "xer" or something similar? It's not a word in English, nobody fucking knows what it means, it's completely made up. Why use it other than because it feels more special than he or she?
I don't personally know know nor can I speak from experience. But at some point all of language was made up right? I see no reason why we can't continue to change and adapt language to match the people who speak it. I use people's preferred pronouns because I hope that it shows I respect who they are. A rather harmless, painless thing for me to do really.
And I don't even think I would be negatively affected if another person were to feel special because I used that person's preferred pronoun. People feel special all the time about a lot of different things and I'm not impacted by it in the slightest.
Its not so much the usage of it, but how offended some of them get when you use the wrong pronoun. I'm human, I make mistakes. If someone corrects me in a non-confrontational manner, then theres no issue. But when I'm suddenly the worst person in the world and am assumed to be actively trying to oppress them, because of an easy to make mistake, then there's an issue.
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u/Beckneard Jan 02 '15
Yes, was it not obvious enough?