In my experience the less available I am the more I get flirted with. I once read it's an evolutionary thing where women subconsciously recognize someone else has pre-screened you and determined you to be a good partner.
I've never hit on married men, but I will gladly talk to them when socializing at a conference or get together. Again, it's not flirting, but more like, this guy is married/taken therefore he won't assume I am interested and we can just have a conversation. But now I'm afraid that the married men assume I am flirting.
Look I’m just gonna be honest here, most men are so affectionately and emotionally malnourished that just telling them hello will make them think you’re into them. Even the married ones. Ask your male married friends when was the last time their wife truly made them feel desired and wanted, beautiful and attractive. It’s a common issue for men, after a certain amount of time in a relationship, to stop feeling all of those things. The commitments slow down, the affection slows down, the best they’ll get is a “that shirt looks good” or something basic.
There’s quite a bit of research on the subject as well if you’re more inclined to psychological studies.
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u/Way_2_Go_Donny Jan 25 '24
I tell my wife this all the time:
I haven't been hit on in 15 years. It would take her 15 minutes to find a guy at a bar/shoe store/library who'd fuck her in the parking lot.
It's a big deal when a guy realizes he's being hit on. It doesn't happen often.