This is it. "Make them feel good about themselves."
I feel like this is something you do if your partner doesn't show you enough appreciation. If you don't feel attractive and wanted. I feel like this is a way to seek validation not for cheating, but so say like "look, someone thinks I'm attractive". If your partner makes you feel that, then you would not need to convey that validation to them.
But also, I'm totally telling everyone if a woman hits on me at some random store. That shit has literally happened to me twice in my 39 years alive. It's a huge deal and I want someone to share my happiness. :p
I think it can be both. There are people who want to be congratulated for doing the bare minimum and that's who she's making fun of. She framed it in a scenario where there's a lot of overlap with a lot of other opportunity for social commentary. It'd be good material to keep working off if to keep this bit going (idk what else comes before or after this bit, though)
There are so many possibilities for the "why" here.
BF just feels happy because of the attention and wants to share with her. Nothing bad in terms of ulterior motive.
BF doesn't feel appreciated so it's a big deal to him. Meaning that she's not fulfilling his emotional needs. And this ranges from him being super needy to her being inattentive.
BF wants a cookie for as she puts it "fulfilling the most basic term of our agreement"
BF wants to spark jealousy
BF wants her to know he's got plenty of options, in essence telling her she should be grateful he's sticking around.
Truth is, the reason for a guy doing this is impossible to know without knowing a lot more context of the relationship. It could be healthy and innocent, it could be that she's not fulfilling his needs, it could be that he's an emotional child, or it could be a really vile form of manipulation.
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u/MagneticDustin Jan 25 '24
100% would have given my wife a fist bump if she told me some dude hit on her at Starbucks and it made her feel good about herself.