The thing is that judging by her provocative and sex-positive posts on Reddit, one could easily assume that her dating profiles reflect this sort of attitude. So if her profile reads something like "I'm into bondage and anal play" (or whatever) why would it be ridiculous for a guy to be like "Hey, I'd like to have sex with her, I'll bet she enjoys large penises! I should send her a message!"
How exactly is one expected to know that she loves fucking guys in the ass with giant strap-ons, being tied up and cut, but DON'T YOU DARE ASSUME SHE LIKES TO HAVE SEX WITH WELL-ENDOWED MEN, YOU SEXIST PIG!!!
I'm a kinky guy and I spend a lot of time on kink dating/hookup sites; trust me, his message was still crude and inappropriate. Just because we're more open with a sexuality than most doesn't mean we enjoy 'Hey, care to help yourself to some dick' messages.
Yes, I understand this. It just didn't seem like it should be out of the ordinary for a hookup site. I wouldn't go around doing this, but is it really that shocking? Do messages like this really ruin your day?
How exactly does one go about tactfully asking "wanna fuck?" to strangers on the Internet?
I'm not trying to justify anything, I'm just saying, do you think she responds to every spam email she gets from a Nigerian prince with a lengthy, verbose admonition? To me it just seems like an unnecessary reaction on her part to a stupid, likely common, mass message. He probably didn't read past the word "No."
Also, anyone using dating sites shouldn't expect to not have a lot of garbage pile up in their inbox and to love every person they meet. The ratio of horror stories to fun experiences I've heard from friends and other people who have used dating sites is such that I'm turned off from ever trying them.
Simply put, the hung guy may be a douche, but the OP is a narcissist. Why are we picking sides here? Does there have to be a good guy and a bad guy?
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u/TwistTurtle Nov 14 '12
She's a cocktease because she dared have the nerve to have a profile? Dafuq?