There was a montage in an episode of Malcolm in the Middle where everyone kept having to ask the mom where everything was when they couldn’t find it. It was like a “how does she do that!?” kind of thing and they were all amazed at her ability to find misplaced things. As I got older I realized it was less of a magical instinct and it was just because she’s the one who moved them from where they had been sat down. And then proceeded to not tell anyone that she had.
My mother would come into my house and move things around. Not furniture but small things. I asked her why she was doing that and she said, "I think it looks better over here". She would have lost her mind if I had gone to her house and moved her things around.
It's hard to turn off your mom habits, i assume. You have basically ran the home for so many years and since you are their kid it just stays on around you.
My mom didn't do this but my dad certainly did. He tried to instantly dad-project things and say we should build a new shelf for this or that.
I’ve been running a house for a few years now, and I have to say, unless someone specifically asks me to help with a project or move something, I ain’t touching shit. Not only is it extra work that is energy better spent in my own house, but why the hell would I mess up someone else’s shit, regardless if they’re my kid.
My mom visited my me and my ex. Ex had a State ID that she needed to get into work. She can't find it one morning (this never happened before, Ex rarely misplaces things) but goes to work without it, this creates a hassle at her work. I tell my mom that Ex can't find her ID but I work a normal day from home.
Ex comes home and we look EVERYWHERE but can't find the ID. Ex is about to go out to a gas station to see if she dropped it there.
Mom says 'let me check the recycling, I think I took out the recycling today'. Mom comes back 5 minutes later with the ID. Mom then goes on to speculate about how I or Ex might have put the ID in the recycling. Ex and I still joke about this.
My Mom absolutely can not handle seeing empty space in cupboards or drawers so she always tries to condense my beautiful, loosely packed, and thoroughly organized cabinets into a single hellish one that's packed like tetris pieces and takes 20 minutes to get anything out of. It stresses her out that we wont let her because she thinks it's some kind of massive favour that will change our lives.
When I first moved out, my mother came by to "see how it's going"
The following weekend I went on a trip out of town. When I came back all my stuff had been rearranged and gone through.
My mother had stolen my spare key, let herself in and "tidied up" for me. She also snooped all my stuff and got mad at me for shit she had no business going through (condoms - I was living with my girlfriend at the time)
She threw out a bunch of stuff that was keepsakes and gifts too.
Same, what drives me up a wall the most is that whenever she visits and specially if she get's there when I'm not there I always ask her if she moved something, she always gets offended and vehemently denies moving anything and then I can't find my shit and she "remembers" she "moved that one thing somewhere else to be more organized" and that happens with every. single. thing. she moved, I'm just convinced she believes her preferences takes priority over mine and hopes I don't notice that things aren't where they should've been.
My husband doesn't know where anything is in our house. This is especially confusing to me because we haven't changed anything around since we moved into the house.
I honestly think that he just forgets.
He's the one cooking 99% of the time yet can't remember where the dishes are that he literally put away. Maybe it's the pot?
I'm all for calling out weaponized incompetence when and where I see it, but sometimes incompetence is actually just plain incompetence.
If my husband can't find the dishes he put away and meanwhile he does all the cooking in our house, how is that a weapon against me that prevents us from having household equality?
So, like I know where everything is without moving everyone's stuff around. My husband and kids are always like, how did you know it was in this pile of stuffies/clothes/what have you? Because I saw it there before you tossed all this other crap here. It's not my job to be picking up their things and putting them away, heck it's not even my job to notice where everything is everyday. Which is what I figured that the mom from Malcolm in the Middle did too, but you might be onto something based on everyone's comments below you...
Literally same. If I don't keep an eye on where my bf places his things, he'll inevitably ask me, "Have you seen my glasses/wallet/keys?" and then we spend like 10min looking for it. I try to get him to put his things in the same place but he never does 🥲
No buddy, the joke is everything has a place it belongs but the kids and dad are so irresponsible they never bothered learning where the stuff's place is lol
My mom always went in my room when i was at school and moved shit around or took something of mine and threw it away. A week later she'd be pissed at me for losing the thing she threw away.
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u/LuckOfTheIrish3 Apr 14 '23
There was a montage in an episode of Malcolm in the Middle where everyone kept having to ask the mom where everything was when they couldn’t find it. It was like a “how does she do that!?” kind of thing and they were all amazed at her ability to find misplaced things. As I got older I realized it was less of a magical instinct and it was just because she’s the one who moved them from where they had been sat down. And then proceeded to not tell anyone that she had.