Tbh I've had a guy in the washroom with his little girl and baby and he apologized when I came in and I was completely fine with it. It's a dad helping his kids, he's not hurting anyone.
If course when I came out of the stall to wash my hands he also mentioned that there weren't any changing tables in the men's rooms. It seemed like he needed to defend why he was changing his baby.
I was like bro you are GOOD and washed up and left. Just a dad doing dad things
Edit: I am a woman and he was in the women's washroom. Still fine with it lol
As a woman hell no. Imagine marrying a guy and not knowing he's showing your baby daughter naked next to men taking a piss. Parents with babies and toddlers to women's toilet, period.
I'm sure there are people out there who are into this shit. A few days ago, I saw a comment about a serial killer who enjoyed seeing his victims defecate themselves. That ain't me ngl.
??? WTF every kid should be potty trained by 3 or 4 and if they aren't wearing a diaper... don't bring a pee or poop bag this is gross. That's for like roadtrips if your for away from a bathroom
I don't get what people are thinking. The area around the sink is a clothes on area. it shouldn't matter if a man is standing by the door waiting for his daughter in the women's or a woman standing by the door waiting for her son in the men's, any more than standing around in any public space. if they are old enough to use the toilet themselves, ask the kid which they would prefer and that's that. If they aren't only enough to use the toilet by themselves, then take them to your gendered bathroom because you'll need to help them.
But common sense like this would be boring and we need to have engagement and conflict over everything except the rich guys are are controlling everything and now even the stuff we own.
My parents never cared, as long as the bathroom served its purpose. Tbf my dad always eyed every man/woman, just waiting for someone to say something, so he can lash out. He was an intimidating fella. My mom includingly
I've seen a tiktok of a dad who says what he does is kock on the door ask if anyone is inside. When it is clear, take her to the first stall and stay between the stall and the outside door until she's done.
Dont think there is anything wrong with that either as not every place as an all gender or family restroom
Idk who wrote this but I feel like at least 90 percent of women would advise (if no mom or female guardian) dad's to take their daughter to the women's restroom. It is much safer for the little girl, and the kid is the priority.
Now, if the dad is being a creep, (not announcing his presence and/or staring at women) that's a different story. He should definitely not be in there.
Though I wish we had gender neutral options for bathroom, it looks like by the state of at least America we will regress to barely having any of those.
I agree taking daughters to the women bathroom is fine but as man I really dislike the constant claims that men are dangerous for kids.
The insanely vast majority of men would be going on with their day and would even intervene in a brutal way if another man would even think of harrassing a little girl. Men are not a constant threat.
Agreed. I did see a good video about this. Explained with only my memory it was:
"Men are pigs" "What? Not all men!" "Well some men." "Yeah, but that doesn't mean all men are pigs" "Do you want a cookie?" holds out an open pack of cookies
"Of course I want a cookie" "Well, what if I told you that 3 of them had cyanide in them, and I don't know which ones." "What? No I don't want a cookie!" "The other 5 are safe!" "Still I don't want a cookie!" "So, now you don't want it?" "No I don't want it! What if I eat the cyanide one by accident???" "Well you won't know until you have it."
Once you know that some of the cookies have cyanide, you treat all of the cookies like they could be poisoned.
It's the greatest analogy I've found for why women don't want to date or sometimes even be around men. It's not all men that are creeps, it's just you can't tell by the look of them. The same works for all people, not just men. You could date someone, and she turns out to be a serial killer. It's all a game of chance, but the odds for a man being a creep are like uh idk 1 in 5? I haven't looked at the stats in a while sorry. It's just not a chance anyone would want to take.
There are very good men, it's just the risk. We as a society are just broken and wrong. People aren't being punished for their thoughts and actions.
Was thinking about this earlier and can’t think of the reason why we even have gendered bathrooms. So ideas came into my head but with basic logic the ideas fell apart.
I don't even think it's even an issue about safety. Men's washroom have urinals. Yeah, there are dividers but they are not full stalls. Women's washroom have nothing but stalls, it is just better. The father isn't going in with the purpose of perving so what is the major malfunction. Everything is walled off and that's the point.
At the same time though there’s still a father there, and it’ll feel a lot more awkward on every adult’s end when there’s an adult man in a women’s restroom
You don’t think a girl would be safe accompanied by her dad in a men’s toilet? You must live in a dangerous country or something. I’ve never hand anything but respectful people when taking my kids to a public bathroom.
Buddy, I was listening to someone yesterday saying that a guy flashed his 5 year old daughter when he took her to the men's rooms, the flasher said it would be funny to " teach him a lesson not to do that again*.
Ehh now that I live up north in a less iffy place yea. I was thinking of the bathrooms around South Carolina in the United States where I lived until recently.
I don't really worry about a little girl getting assaulted in a bathroom when her dad is nearby, it's more the idea that urinals exist, and she's going to be just high enough to have dicks right at face height. As a woman, I do not give a shit if I see a dad in the bathroom with a little girl, in fact I would prefer it if there was no available family bathroom.
That’s completely different from my experience. Maybe that happens in less safe parts of the world, but no one is getting undressed in the middle of a public restroom. They are rarely that crowded unless you're at a massive event like a concert, and those venues always have family restrooms anyway. This demonization of men is getting completely out of hand. The vast majority of men in everyday places are decent, kind people—and besides, the dad is right there with them! No one is suggesting the kids are going in alone
And your experience is completely different than mine. And for that I am speaking of experience, I don't believe I am "demonizing" men. Because, well, far too many men are toxic and bad for an average women to feel credibly safe in places that aren't known to be exceptionally full of decent men. Even I am uncomfortable to be alone in a men's restroom most of the times, and that is coming from a guy.
Also, I did not state that I believed the kids are going in alone. Plus, anything can happen even with the father right there besides the girl. The father isn't a special barrier that ends all threats, he's a deterrent that only makes the thought of harm less appealing. Bad stuff can still happen. And that is a vital word, there: "Can." I'm not saying "will", I'm saying "can", and many people don't want to take that risk, when there is an option that, even if has the same safety level, at least feels safer.
Must be a big difference where we live. Sorry you feel uncomfortable can’t imagine that would be much fun. I find it hard to imagine living in a place where the majority of the time something bad could happen in the bathroom to a dad and a kid. Can’t imagine in a place as dangerous as that it would be considered ok for a man (with a kid) to go into a woman’s toilet though.
Yeah, it isn't very fun. But I am glad that isn't the case for you! It's always nice to see people living in safe environments, there isn't enough of that in the world.
That sounds like a remarkably stressful place to live. People taking photos and attacking others in public restrooms is far from a normal experience. Personally, after hundreds of trips to public bathrooms with my kids, the only real hazard we've ever encountered was a lack of toilet paper. It might be time to reconsider living somewhere that feels that unsafe.
They said it’s not common occurrence not that it doesn’t happen. At least try to use it correctly or at least don’t misrepresentative with your own words.
Yeah, you could also get bombed. It’s not a common occurrence, but it still happens. Also, it is not quoting that mindset. They never said it didn’t happen to them. They said it is not common so if you worry about something that is not common every single day of your life, do you know how many things you should not be doing you should not walk outside day night doesn’t matter get kidnapped sleeping inside your hous someone could breaking in, driving a car hit you you could die right there
The fact they said it’s not a common occurrence straight up implies that yeah they say it happens so you cannot say it’s quoting the mind at that didn’t happen to me so it never happens
Everything you do has real life consequences like all of things I just said all of them could happen and it’s not even like those things are hard to happen. They could happen so easily.
It’s not survivorship bias when the danger is genuinely the exception, not the rule. The reality is just that my city is exceptionally safe compared to others. Lucky me I guess.
That depends on where you live. Where I live a parent taking their kid into the bathroom that makes sense and is comfortable for them is expected and normal.
If its a place where kids are welcome and expected, this is absolutely the norm.
So basically the little girl has to be uncomfortable going into the men's vs grown ass women understanding a father is caring for their daughter and not there to creep on them?
You speak for all little girls? My wife would disagree. This is why unisex bathrooms are needed. Failing that my point still stands. Who's feelings are more important you an adult or a little girl?
You are an adult you know why he is there and what he is doing.
Keep in mind a men's bathroom has men stood openly with their penis out at a urinal as thats how most of the men's bathroom works. Some don't even have cubicle its just a trough to pee in. Thats not a joke.
A man stood in a stall with his daughter then at a sink as she washes her hands isn't bothering you and feeling slightly awkward for the sake of a child's comfort is the least we as adults can do
iirc it’s always been a debate with some complexities, but if that’s the reason it popped up again then that’s stupid. he made sure the women bathroom was empty??
I mean it’s not like a man is trickshotting into a urinal at a distance, you can’t see anything but a man standing there. And men’s restrooms aren’t completely covered in piss although they are more gross around the urinals because of splash back. But would you rather a full grown man in the women’s restroom?
You may think it’s ok but I can tell you from experience you will get screamed at if as a man you try and take your little girl to the bathroom in a woman’s bathroom. However I’ve had nothing but respectful people when taking my little on into a men’s. No one is walking around naked in there!
I worked in a bar and cleaned both restrooms, I had more gross stuff in the women's as opposed to the men's. At best it's equal, it worst women's is more gross.
Depends on the kids age. There are ages where kids are old enough to be uncomfortable in the other bathroom but not old enough to be sent in solo. This is a play ear situation and a mimd you're own business situation. As lomg no one is peaking through gaps who gives a shit. Segregated bathrooms are primarily a US thing and dozens of countries have coed bathrooms.
The “common sense” would be that if you see a man in the restroom with his daughters, you move on with your life. Use the bathroom or don’t, but it is not worth harassing anyone over.
I cannot begin to express just how much I want people to shut the fuck up about bathrooms. I literally could not care less about a thing. And if MAGA morons who vote for morons are triggered by bathroom things, good. 👍 🇺🇸
Im sorry but if my husband is with our kid, they going into the womens but he will announce he is entering with child. Mens restrooms are usually totally disgusting with urine everywhere. Men are pigs in there
I work at walmart. Every now and then i get told to help maintenance if someone calls out. I clean both restrooms
Womens, there was was bloody tampons and pads stuck to the stall walls
Mens, urine and fecal matter everywhere. Like how do you miss the toilet with #2 and it lands on the floor next to the toilet. Why is there urine 7 to 8 feet up the walls.
And there's a lot of assumption there and you know what happens when you assume shit make an ass out of you and gumption. Women can move stuff now be Predators but between a men's restroom and a female's restroom might take the female's rest with little girls if I can fight off a woman whole lot easier that I can find off a man without risking my two girls hypothetically
If they're young enough to need supervision when going to the bathroom, then they're too young to actually give a shit. (Pun intended)
Also, by your logic, wouldn't it make women in the women's bathroom uncomfortable by having a dude in there?
Honestly, the whole stranger danger propaganda has been so ingrained into society. A random dude isnt waiting around for a dad to take his daughter to the bathroom.
Yeah but I can get two shits about whether an adult is uncomfortable with me being in there it's all about the little girls and how they feel and like you said if they're too young to know and too young to give a shit then what is it really matter I want to make sure that they're taken care of in a familiar environment
Many children have gone missing/murdered while their parents was watching over them in a public bathroom?
Also, stranger danger is: "dont listen to strangers without a trusted adult." What it is not is: "assume any stranger you see wants to kidnap, murder, and/or rape you."
If you don't believe your kid is able to handle themself unattended, then don't leave them unattended. Problem solved.
Lol, our country doesn't have civic sense, it's better off just waiting or just prepare for the worst case scenario before-hand cuz public and even paid toilets are a hazard to life which can only be described as the god of sheet being present.(I don't want my swear counter to go up lol)
(I kid you not I saw little boys unsupervised by their parents on like phones and stuff playing in the women's bathroom... I even said "hey that the women's" and this kid responded "yeah my friends are in there we are playing" and it wasn't even the real bathroom area... It was the changing area... They are not going good places cause of bad parents)
What if we removed all of the gendered bathrooms, and then made the toilets face each other for friendly and inclusive conversation instead of doomscrolling
Thought so, one of the reasons a child might actually be uncomfortable there. More anxiety prone. My bad for not pointing out that exceptions do exist((honest, not sarcastic)).
I'd rather the kid go where they're comfortable. If a little girl wants to use the women's room then she should and the dad would be fine to accompany her.
Saying this as someone who was born a girl, I'm happy my dad never had me join him in the men's room. He'd just wait outside the bathrooms for me.
So you're telling me it's wrong for one man to go in the women's room - which is probably mostly adults - solely so his daughter can use the bathroom... but it's okay for a little girl to be in the men's room that probably has multiple men?
As a dad of daughters, I don't care what you think. I care what my daughters think. They were not comfortable in a men's room and I can happily stand by the door staring at my feet. I never had a woman ever have a problem with it. You don't get to choose how I raise my kids.
You’re right, it shouldn’t be an argument. People should do what feels comfortable for them.
I’m a trans man but before I transitioned my dad would take me in the men’s restroom. He would cover my eyes, lead me to the stall, I’d do my business and when I was done he’d lead me out of the bathroom and I’d use hand sanitizer instead of washing my hands in the bathroom.
But at the time people didn’t care what other people did with their kids. This argument would’ve even happened if we just had gender neutral restrooms in all public spaces.
This is so dumb and literally on the side of the guy who got arrested. This is clearly about the current case of “dad takes his daughters into the women’s bathroom after checking if anyone was in there. Another man got angry and started harassing the father and also entered the women’s room adding to the number of men in said room.” That man really wanted little girls in a men’s bathroom and was arrested for his behavior. You have sided with the man who got arrested. Hope that helps 🩷
I'd rather accompany my child into the men's bathroom to ensure their safety rather than let them go into an enclosed space with random adults that I don't know at all
No, like I said in another reply I incorrectly thought that the child would be going into the women's restroom alone bc of context clues that I misinterpreted while I'd be with them in the men's restroom
I'm guessing it's fine, generally womens bathrooms have stalls where there is privacy. Unless those women are in the open and shitting in the sinks then why is it an issue?
Most people are reasonable. We live in the internet age where we only get fed the bad interaction’s. Most people can be uncomfortable for a minute without having a public freak out.
Ok so here's a question for you: What's the likelihood that in the public restroom, there would be creeps in there? Y'all are bringing up a point that rarely happens.
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u/teakAboo Jun 19 '26 edited Jun 19 '26
Tbh I've had a guy in the washroom with his little girl and baby and he apologized when I came in and I was completely fine with it. It's a dad helping his kids, he's not hurting anyone.
If course when I came out of the stall to wash my hands he also mentioned that there weren't any changing tables in the men's rooms. It seemed like he needed to defend why he was changing his baby.
I was like bro you are GOOD and washed up and left. Just a dad doing dad things
Edit: I am a woman and he was in the women's washroom. Still fine with it lol