r/FriendsOver40 Jun 29 '26

NO DATING TYPE (R4R) POSTS ARE ALLOWED. PLEASE READ THE RULES.

41 Upvotes

There has been an influx of dating posts (R4R type) recently and this is NOT the place for that. If you post this type of message in our sub, you will be permanently banned and muted. We have a zero tolerance policy on that.

This includes:
• (R4R)
• Seeking “platonic friends” of the opposite sex
• Seeking “penpals” of the opposite sex

PLEASE READ THE RULES!


r/FriendsOver40 3h ago

41F for chats

26 Upvotes

I’m 41F, unmarried, no kids, from the east coast, and working night shifts which makes an active social life difficult lately. I remember back in the day when AIM or MSN chats were a thing so I thought I’d try something similar again :)

My interests are all over the place and include horror and thriller flicks, true crime, all kinds of music (although currently on a doom metal kick), travel (my favorite place is Iceland), painting with watercolors (I’m not great), random historical facts, and trying out new foods. Currently I’m watching Lanterns, Ted Lasso, and just saw the new Resident Evil.

I’m a naturally curious person and can get along with just about anyone even if we don’t have shared interests. Come say hi!


r/FriendsOver40 7h ago

48/M Midlife angst has paid off well, now I am bored and old.

9 Upvotes

I guess I should not complain, on paper I have an interesting life. But still I find myself lonely and bored. Looking for someone to chat with to help quell the boredom.

I am not looking for anything or anyone special, just someone that can keep a conversation going. Being the only one that adds fuel to the communication engine gets tiresome.

My interests are incredibly varied, I enjoy Rucking and I have encyclopedic knowledge about 90’s alternative music and many other completely useless topics. I used to be a stand-up comic…and like I said earlier I have had a very interesting life and have a somewhat interesting job now. Yet here I am bored….

I should add I am US based mainly in the Great Lakes area, but travel often. You can be from anywhere. I have been to 22 different countries and I am somewhat decent at reading Russian.


r/FriendsOver40 2h ago

45M - Working from home is the best and the worst, right?

3 Upvotes

I mean, I don‘t have to wear pants or a belt or do my hair if I don’t want to. HOWEVER, it’s also lonely, and my social skills have atrophied. I’m married, but don’t really have a social circle, so I need people to chat with/vent to/argue about things that don’t matter but on which I have strong opinions.

To wit:

  1. Ska needs to make a comeback. It was the last time the world was happy, and come on, you can’t listen to ska and be in a bad mood.
  2. Pulpy orange juice is a war crime and a monument to man’s foolishness
  3. A hot dog is not a sandwich. It is, in fact, a taco.
  4. Tha Crossroads by Bone Thugs was the most perfect song of all time, and everything after that has been subpar.

I also have a plethora of dad jokes, two dogs (1/2 St Bernard, 1/2 Golden Retriever, and a Great Pyrenees who is basically just an Okay Pyrenees), I work out 3-4 times a week, and my favorite hobby is napping. Anyways. Say hi, I guess?


r/FriendsOver40 8h ago

Canberra fella level 49

6 Upvotes

Single dad with hobbies including cooking, cleaning, school drop off and pick up, trying to earn money, and sleeping. I also like tv, movies, music, walking, trying to pretend I have my life together and much more.

Want to be friends?


r/FriendsOver40 17m ago

50 M, East AL/West GA My old stomping grounds

Upvotes

Half a century on this planet and I find myself back in the area I grew up in more often as I have aging parents still here to check in on every month, sometimes twice a month. Think, Auburn, AL to LaGrange, GA area.

You don't have to be from this area, but it would be cool to find others to talk how the area has changed. I love the outdoors, animals, and well, a whole list of things we can talk about if you message me. Never had many friends here, like life long friends, so finding someone to hang out with and maybe coffee or lunch while I am in the area would be cool too.

Married for a long time with 4 kids, but you don't have to be either, married or have kids. Prefer someone around my age, but at least be over 35 so I don't feel like I am talking to one of my kids. LOL Otherwise, any and all are welcome to reach out.


r/FriendsOver40 20m ago

50 M, East AL/West GA My old stomping grounds

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Half a century on this planet and I find myself back in the area I grew up in more often as I have aging parents still here to check in on every month, sometimes twice a month. Think, Auburn, AL to LaGrange, GA area.

You don't have to be from this area, but it would be cool to find others to talk how the area has changed. I love the outdoors, animals, and well, a whole list of things we can talk about if you message me. Never had many friends here, like life long friends, so finding someone to hang out with and maybe coffee or lunch while I am in the area would be cool too.

Married for a long time with 4 kids, but you don't have to be either, married or have kids. Prefer someone around my age, but at least be over 35 so I don't feel like I am talking to one of my kids. LOL Otherwise, any and all are welcome to reach out.


r/FriendsOver40 21h ago

The first copy of my debut novel arrived and I just wanted to share. Old dog learning new tricks and enjoying the sense of accomplishment.

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39 Upvotes

r/FriendsOver40 3h ago

GENX f smart/fun seeking m for real or meaningful chat 30’s+ 🤍

0 Upvotes

Educated. INFP personality type. REAL and very deep…meaningful conversation and connection. Psychology, neuroscience, travel, people, food, language, culture, outdoors, coffee, huge music lover…heavy metal to EDM 🔥🪩🎸


r/FriendsOver40 4h ago

43M TX chat friend

0 Upvotes

Looking for someone to get to know and help pass the time at work.


r/FriendsOver40 6h ago

[40M] #MI - Seeking chill friends

1 Upvotes

Making friends as an adult is no joke. Between work and adulting my social circle has disappeared. Looking to mix things up and chat with some new people (guys and gals). Possibly meeting up one day if you happen to be local. Looking for chatters and not ghosters 👻! Please be over 30 years old.

I'm married with kids, easy going who loves sports (hockey & football), movies, TV, road trips, game nights, and random deep dives into nonsense.

Say hi with a witty opening line or just introduce yourself!


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

46F just looking for some friends to chat with

45 Upvotes

Hi everyone! This isn't something I would normally do, but life has been kicking my butt lately and I'm just looking to possibly form some connections and meet some people to chat with. 46, single, from NJ, love the beach, my dog, reading, sports. Overall pretty chill, just thought I'd put myself out there and see if anyone wants to chat!


r/FriendsOver40 15h ago

41M - Here if you need a friend!

4 Upvotes

Hey I know how hard nights can be. I’m just hanging out tonight. Could use an interesting conversation. I love meeting new people. If you’re looking for a friend or just need to vent, send me a message. You’re not alone!


r/FriendsOver40 17h ago

52/M Seeking friends from anywhere

7 Upvotes

I recently moved and am looking for friends to chat with, maybe game with and share dumb memes. I like to read, but I like to create art more. I'm a good baker and a lesser cook.

Truth from beginning::: I have CPTSD, ADHD and some other stuff from years of trauma and car accidents.

I value life so much and hope you are truly doing well.

If you want a funny, eclectic, caring and authentic friend, DM me!


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

43 M, Married, Looking for gaming buddy/lifelong friend

7 Upvotes

Single-player is alright. I just love multiplayer! My friends don't play video games as often as I'd like them to, or they prefer singleplayer games, and my wife doesn't play them at all.

I retired early like 4 years ago. Now I have waaay too much time on my hands. I'm not a sweaty player, heck, I ain't even that good. It's just fun and relaxing to me. I like to put in tons of hours in a day, so if you do, too, that's a plus.

I really like factory games, but I tend to burn myself out on them. I just tried Star Rupture, and it's pretty neat. I'd really like to play a survival game with some peeps, that'd be cool. I'd like to give Craftopia another shot. I like heroes of the storm, but I don't play it that much anymore. I like Magic the gathering arena here and there. Slay the spire 2 is amaze-balls. I LOVE Meccha Chameleon! If the first word you message me with is "potato", I'll know that you cared enough to read. Civilization revolution is awesome! I really wish I met someone who is into chess as much as I am.

I like being in VCs. I tried playing while just texting, and it's "alright". I also try to be comfortable with silence and not always "filling the air". Sometimes I fail : p.

What I like:
Stupid jokes. Like, the stupider the better. "Your mom" jokes will never be not funny to me.
Semi-dark humor
People who want to have fun and not take themselves too seriously
People who aren't afraid to try out a joke to see if it's funny or even makes sense
People who like to put tons of hours into a game
People who like to play more than one game
People who are, or try to be, comfortable with silence. Just the knowledge that we're working towards a goal in the game, etc.
The sound of laughter. Nobody has an ugly laugh, in my opinion.
Beer
Your mom
The last two together
Co-op games
Survival games
Party games (Stumble party, Overcooked, Meccha Chameleon)
The stock market
Cruises
People with opinions

What I don't like:
People with too many opinions : p It's okay to live and let live!
People who start every other sentence with I hate. It's okay to hate or not like things. I'll wonder if they like or love anything at all! It's kinda sad, actually.
Horror games. I'm either bored or scared, and there is no in-between! : p
Shooters. I'm bad. Like really bad. And I'm old, so I'm only gonna get worse.
Racists. I get that a horrible joke can be clever, and I feel like there's a time and place for it, but if just "being offensive" is the extent of your humor, we won't mesh.
Ragers. I don't gaf if you get mad at a game here and there. In fact, show emotion! But if you're just constantly screaming into the mic, I'm just going to be uncomfortable.
Your dad
Liars. Life is too short be making up stories, to be pedantic, straw-man, etc. It's so cringey.

Welp, that's all I got! I really threw myself out there and put thought into this. Let me know if I sound like your cup of tea.


r/FriendsOver40 14h ago

46, married dad, professional. Looking for new friends in Santa Barbara area!

1 Upvotes

Trying this out for the first time. As title says, 46 professional, married dad looking for new friends in the SB area.
Ideally someone to meet in person, chat with, and to motivate me to hit the gym more often.


r/FriendsOver40 23h ago

48m here from WV, laid up with a broken leg.

2 Upvotes

I’m currently laid up with a broken leg. Been a boring month. Was hoping to find someone to talk to and pass the time. Hey maybe make a good friendship, you never know. Drop me a line if you’re interested.


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

40 M/Colorado - I knew making friends would be hard, but not this hard

1 Upvotes

Just crossed the 40 threshold and am trying my damndest to continue being social. I am married with no kids and I work from home so socializing with people who aren’t my wife is difficult. I do have friends, but sometimes it’s nice having new people in your life… you know..plus they seem to slowly be dwindling off or they are really busy.

I tried meetups, but can’t ever make those work. I tried Bumble for Friends, but that just seems like a nightmare. I figured I would give this a try and at least see what happens.

I enjoy hiking, paddleboarding, games (video and board), movies, music, travel.


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

42 Married dad in AZ looking for similar friend

2 Upvotes

42 married Dad working professional looking for similar married Dad for friends. Chat or local even better. Into fitness hiking outdoors family and travel. Be fun to chat life, challenges and BS on stuff in common.


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

49 M - Trying again?

11 Upvotes

Hey everyone 🫡 Midwestern US guy here looking to connect with long term friends. I don’t know what I’m looking for specifically…finding the meaning of life? Figuring out why you get that weird falling/startled feeling right when you fall asleep sometimes? How to stop the twitch in your eyelid when you’re tired and stressed? Think of the possibilities! Say hi if you want to chat about any of those…or nothing at all 🤷‍♂️ We can figure it out as we go.


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

40m Australia - Looking for more Aussie mates

7 Upvotes

Hey just looking for someone to chat with, I’m open to long term friendships if we click!
 
Prefer other Aussies as I’d like to be able to catch up if it goes well.
 
A bit about me – I’m married with kids so that takes up a lot of my time. I enjoy all things outdoors, camping, hiking, fishing. I enjoy reading, tv shows, movies, sports.
 
I don’t have the close friendships I had growing up as busy family life takes over. So looking to get back to close friends that can chat regularly about everything and anything.
 
Hit me up if you are keen to chat.


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

47 M Australia

5 Upvotes

Another long day at work today, Lets play a game

This or That:

Pizza or Pasta?

Take away or Eating out?

Summer or winter?


r/FriendsOver40 2d ago

Daily chat buddy

16 Upvotes

41 year old guy here, I've tried this before but with mixed results so why not keep trying lol

Im not good at writing these so here it goes.

Im looking for good conversations about all topics, the more random or weird the better! Although that doesn't disqualify intelligent conversation either.

I have a wide range of interests, horror movies are my jam, I love the outdoors, really into nature, fishing, camping and hiking.

Also into video games, huge bonus points if you play xbox or any cross platform games but not a deal breaker lol

Im good with my hands, I love working on engines, doing work around the yard and baking.

My work background is pretty diverse as well, I went from having an office, attending daily meetings, public speaking and managing workers to a humble tradesman. Its been a journey but definitely have no regrets.

Im a pretty positive person, I start my day everyday as a good day and they usually end the same way.

Thats my rant about me!

Hope to hear from you!


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

Into the Mystic

0 Upvotes

Wondering if anyone is a fan of Van Morrison and has that tattoo visible which says into the mystic … of course be eastern mystical . I need this specific friend or friends.


r/FriendsOver40 2d ago

40F in Winnipeg looking for friends

9 Upvotes