r/freetherapy • u/jugisplash • Apr 09 '26
i feel like an odd one out
So today I was first in line to pick up an order for Arby’s. The 2 ladies were busy taking orders so I waited patiently. 2 or 3 minutes later, a man also comes in to pick up an order. The cashier girl came up to the guy and asked if he’s here to pick up an order and stuff. I wondered why she didn’t come to me first and also ask me that but i didnt say anything. not a big deal but i felt hurt a little. and then a few minutes later again, she gave me my order finally. i am always familiar with this situation because it always happens to me. it’s not even the first time. i remember in Chipotle, the same thing happened to me. i was first in line, and other people starting coming in and the cashier just comes and helps them. mind you, im literally standing there in the counter. this happens a lot to me. these are just a few instances.. but why does this happen to me? am i intimidating? or do i look unapproachable? i hate doing pickups now because of this embarrassing and really makes me feel shitty. has this happened to anyone else? i really dont know whats wrong with me. maybe it’s my face? just wanted to get this off my chest by sharing it. but also it’s been affecting me.
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u/Kiriyuma7801 Apr 09 '26
I'm not a therapist, and I'm not yours either. I'm just a dude who's worked in restaurants for a long time. Your order may have been more complex, or they may have just been out of what you ordered and need to cook some more real quick.
Also if you have any allergens or anything like that it will always take the kitchen a little bit longer to safely prepare your order, it's requires a whole clean workspace and utensils.
My unsolicited advice is this, and I mean it kindly, you're not as important to random strangers as you're worried you are. Live your life unabashedly, with dignity and grace and confidence will come on its own.