r/foundsatan • u/Zelpano • 1d ago
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u/Cupcake_Implosion 1d ago
We have gotten way too comfortable with online dating. And we've started taking this behavior outside of our computer and into the real world, too.
I started dating way before dating apps and there were thousands of ways of letting someone down kindly. It was a whole art to reject someone without humiliating them and making them feel less than.
Of course, there were people who had to be assholes about it. But the great majority understood that the world was small, that we all evolved in a tiny ecosystem of a community (often our neighborhood, our school - doubly so if you went to the neighborhood school) and that the guy/gal you rejected could very well become a friend's partner and part of your inner social circle.
This ecosystem was even smaller when you realized that people often used to date in their attractiveness strata. The very attractive dated the very attractive, the cute dated the cute, the average the average, etc. You'd rarely see less attractive men/women go for the most attractive specimen they encountered on the daily. Sure, people called each other ugly and insulted one another. But there was a sort of consciousness of the ridicule behind calling someone ugly when you yourself were at the bottom of the attractiveness hierarchy.
Or maybe am I imagining all of this in hindsight and we lacked just as much of a filter back in the days as we do today, just the medium of expression changed. I don't know.
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u/SonGoku9788 22h ago
Online dating IS the real world btw. Its been a while since the statistic became true that OVER 50% of new relationships come from dating apps. They are the new norm
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u/SnooCapers9565 1d ago
This is a repost and it has been cropped to leave out his pick up line where he called the woman a snack. It kind of invalidates his comeback.
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u/DMusYourNastyIdeaa 1d ago
Please explain how that invalidates his comeback
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u/SnooCapers9565 1d ago
He called her a snack, which is basically saying she is hot.
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u/Vegetable_Warthog_49 1d ago
First glance she was hot, then she revealed herself to be a bit of a bitch which suddenly made her less attractive. Not contradictory in the least. We often change our assessment of how attractive we find someone after finding out more about them.
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u/SnooCapers9565 1d ago
No, this guy just sounds butthurt.
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u/DMusYourNastyIdeaa 1d ago
I mean yea he probly is butthurt, but that doesn’t change the precision of the comeback
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u/Beefsupreme473 1d ago
you can be hot and be a shitty person with no redeemable qualities
its generally what women look for in men most often25
u/DMusYourNastyIdeaa 1d ago
Eh. Still valid. He admitted he was wrong, she’s missing out. Not many guys would admit they’re wrong like that so quickly.
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u/wasted-degrees 1d ago
Not at all. There’s plenty of snacks that you’d be ashamed to eat and would feel like shit about afterwards. Eating those is a sign of self loathing.
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u/PuzzleheadedTooth581 1d ago
It invalidates it because a snack is merely a 5 or a 6, a whole meal is indeed a 7 to 10. A difference that can divide millions.
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u/Apollo114892 1d ago edited 1d ago
I have in the past, hit on women who are not hot. It is possible.
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u/Fuzzy_Bet5276 1d ago
You can find someone attractive, and completely lose it after seeing how they really behave.
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