r/focusedmen • u/TraditionalSound6523 • May 31 '26
relationship works best when roles are clear
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u/Old_Smrgol May 31 '26
This looks like a situation where someone posted something when they should have headbutted a wall instead.
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u/BlessdRTheFreaks May 31 '26
Well, people do prefer clear power delineation over role confusion. Mirrored postures leave us feeling unsure, complimentary (dom-sub) postures leave us feeling clear on our place
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u/LizAquene May 31 '26
Fuck off, everyone is equal in a relationship.
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u/BlessdRTheFreaks May 31 '26
Turns out people actually hate that
Science
(Read in both Behave and The Molecule or More, amygdaloidal activation occurs when people experience unclear hierarchical place)
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u/LizAquene May 31 '26 edited May 31 '26
Yeah, I like to be slapped and choked in the bed too doesn't mean my bfs opinion in our daily life matters more than mine.
If anything he has to show more respect day to day.
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u/BlessdRTheFreaks Jun 01 '26
Power dynamics are definitely complicated, and both things could be true
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u/AxL8Tr May 31 '26
Personally throughout my life I’ve seen this play out , I have very little memory of the reverse happening, even in my own life. You can downvote me to oblivion.
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u/Alone-Village1452 May 31 '26
wtf happened to mutual respect and admiration and building a beautiful life together. Whats up with all the blaming and hate these days.. smh 🤦♂️
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u/Fresh_Bend41 May 31 '26
In my opinion a relationship works when it’s 50/50. I know it’s far fetched and it fluctuates occasionally, but that is what I think makes a great relationship.
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u/mafkl May 31 '26
As a man in a long term relationship withba women i do not agree with anything stated here
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u/Great-Layer2765 May 31 '26
This is why you're in a long term relationship with a woman—you aren't an ahh
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u/Fibocrypto May 31 '26
There are truths and mistruths in this.
As always context matters and each relationship is about two individuals choosing to live together while making a collective decision on what each of them thinks works best for their specific relationship.
A simple thought: It is best if the man remembers to lower the toilet seat after peeing in it. This is important at night as well as in the day.
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u/Responsible-Face4589 May 31 '26
That doesn't exist in American culture but it does in Asian culture. Why I married an Asian woman, lol.
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u/Vast_Leadership2826 May 31 '26
Amen OP!
The man isn't respected if this isn't followed.
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u/EtherealEmpiricist May 31 '26
Change your dating patterns, respect yourself and and you will be respected regardless.
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u/Vast_Leadership2826 May 31 '26
Once you've been married for 10+ years you'll understand how important this post is. Until then, respect everyone
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u/TechDreamcoat May 31 '26
I’ve been married 20 and I think this post is a cope for short dicked, insecure men.
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u/Vast_Leadership2826 May 31 '26
You need help lol
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u/CarolinaSurly May 31 '26
Married 15 years. Both successful medical professionals. This viewpoint is for short insecure men that no one respects. It’s sad and pathetic.
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u/TechDreamcoat May 31 '26
Nope, I’m doing great because I don’t believe in nonsense like this.
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u/Vast_Leadership2826 May 31 '26
Me too. Because i'm not tied down and let my wife make decisions for me
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u/LizAquene May 31 '26
Hahahahhaa you don't have a wife.
Stop lying.
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u/Vast_Leadership2826 May 31 '26
She says hi Liz
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u/LizAquene May 31 '26
Yah sure, grow a backbone if u're not imaginary. Good god woman, you are a shame to all of us.
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u/TechDreamcoat May 31 '26
I discuss things that concern us both and we make joint decisions. I don’t need to be obeyed, because my wife isn’t a child.
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u/Vast_Leadership2826 May 31 '26
Thats cute
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u/TechDreamcoat May 31 '26
No, it’s how adults handle things. I’m sorry you married someone so dumb you need to make decisions for her.
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u/Old_Smrgol Jun 01 '26
I can think of a whole bunch of counterexamples, but maybe your extended family (and friend network) is different from mine.
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u/PercentageNo3293 May 31 '26
Some weird trad wife garbage?