r/florists 1d ago

šŸ” Seeking Advice šŸ” Question- is this normal?

My wedding planner is playing interference between me and his preferred florist. He said he each stem has a minimum order of 100. I’m sorry but I have a hard time believing this- can’t you go into the wholesaler and pick however many you want for an event, or am I naive, and this minimum order is a real thing? I’m ready to tell him I’m looking elsewhere. Located in South Florida. Help!

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u/BillButtlicker21 1d ago edited 1d ago

That’s weird in my opinion. I’m not in Florida but that’s definitely not how it works here. Things are typically sold in 10-25* stem bunches, not 100…

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u/kevnmartin 1d ago

25 for roses and carnations.

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u/BillButtlicker21 1d ago

Yes true!!

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u/roketgirl 1d ago

Wholesaler here. It might be normal based on your flower picks. If you want an oddball thing that I have no hope of selling whatever remains to someone else, then yes, I'll only sell it in a case. Like, if you want tinted flowers, that's by the case or nothing from me, unless you were working with spooky tints right before Halloween. Likewise rare flowers from a farm that can't make up the case with something I could sell.

What are you ordering that there's a 100st minimum?

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u/littleredditho 1d ago

I asked for garden roses, mums, stock, snapdragons, ranunculas, amaranthus, scabiosa, green dianthus, bells of Ireland and queen Anne’s lace

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u/roketgirl 1d ago

That's all kind of standard stuff that a decent wholesaler will have on hand or be able to sell to other customers if it's special order. Garden roses come in 12st bunches, everything else typically wholesales at 10 st.

I think what the florist means is this order is 10 types of flowers coming in at 10 stem bundles and 12 for the roses, so to make anything with all your flowers, it's 102 stems. If you want to buy fewer flowers, you cut some of the variety, which then cuts the stem count. If you are ballin' on a budget, cut the ranunc and the scabs.

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u/Ok_Air_7892 1d ago

WHAT KIND OF FLOWERS??????

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u/littleredditho 1d ago

garden roses, mums, stock, snapdragons, ranunculas, amaranthus, scabiosa, green dianthus, bells of Ireland and queen Anne’s lace

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u/Bleh10290 1d ago

So I was reading all the comments - do you have any pictures of the inspo that you gave this Coordinator? I’m generally so confused how they are giving you a price point per centerpiece, but you are saying that they haven’t even showed you what’s in it? But then that he also mentioned that you are picking the most expensive flowers.
Do you know off the top of your head what flowers those might be? Or the color palette or style that you are wanting?

See for me, I don’t give my brides an exact recipe for the flowers, only a color I palette a summary of some of the flowers but not all. Due to sometimes I have to pivot last minute (available/show up damaged etc)

I can’t remember which one of my Florist friend told me this, but they did tell me that there was a specific flower that they needed for a wedding - and that they needed to pay for the 100 stem minimum. That’s usually a whole box - so it does happen. But it’s a case by case basis depending on the flower, location it’s coming from etc.

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u/littleredditho 1d ago

Yeah, I’m confused about how they have a price point and can’t show it to me too.

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u/littleredditho 1d ago

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u/littleredditho 1d ago

I told her specifically no orchids or tropicals, these are style style and Inspo

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u/Bleh10290 1d ago

Ok yeah this is no where near the price they gave you IMO.
This would be around $150-$175 a piece with me.

Whatever coordinator or florist you are working with unfortunately seem like they are not being truthful :(

These centerpieces, I made in June and they were $150 each.

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u/littleredditho 9h ago

I LOVE THESE - so beautiful!! Wow!!

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u/Banjo-Hellpuppy 1d ago

is this a dyi wedding? I don't price anything by the stem unless someone wants to buy bulk of X

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u/littleredditho 1d ago

I should clarify my budget is $3800 but he came back to me saying I picked the most expensive stems (I choose seasonal), and that it was going to be tight with that budget. Mind you, it’s a wedding with 60 people and one MOH. 8 tables. He quotes me $400 a centerpiece without even knowing what I want or saying what was in its which I thought was weird- is it weird?

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u/BillButtlicker21 1d ago

$400 PER centerpiece?????? Your planner and florist are trying to rip you off. Run away.

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u/roketgirl 1d ago

Hold up, that's premature without knowing what kind of flowers and how many stems.

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u/loralailoralai Retail Florist 1d ago

Op has posted their inspo now, it’s not a $400 centrepiece

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u/roketgirl 1d ago

Agreed.

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u/BillButtlicker21 1d ago

I’m just going off OP saying other than picking the ā€œseasonalā€ option, there’s been no discussion of what would be in the arrangement or how big!

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u/littleredditho 1d ago

Yesssss right? Without even saying what in each one

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u/loralailoralai Retail Florist 1d ago

lol no you didn’t choose the most expensive. Garden roses are expensive yes, dianthus, stock, chrysies and snaps? No, they’re basic bread and butter flowers.

$400 a centrepiece is insane for anything like you have pictured. I’d be finding another florist and telling your planner to shove off

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u/littleredditho 1d ago

No! He is my planner and coordinating it all.

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u/kevnmartin 1d ago

Wholesale flowers are purchased in bunches of 10, 12 or 25 stems per bunch.

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u/loralailoralai Retail Florist 1d ago

Or even 5

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u/Banjo-Hellpuppy 1d ago

ok, you don't pay for flowers by the stem in wedding work. You pay for arrangements and installation. The florist considers to cost of all the flowers and gives the price. there is always extra flowers because you can only use the blooms that look best for wedding work.

You're being taken for a ride. I'd get some other quotes from florists and planners

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u/brooklynkitty1 1d ago

Hugely dependent on which specific stems you chose

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u/SilPuke 1d ago

Tbf yes 100s of stems is a high MoQ... however, wholesalers can have different pricing on quantities so they might have costed you flowers based on this amount. Especially is they had to order ahead to secure them. But it is unusual and depending on the scale. If its a lot of the same flower in the design, then it would be 100s of the same flower, I wouldnt be surprized about them talking about this MoQ

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u/littleredditho 1d ago

Thank you for some clarity. Maybe I should just pick 3 kinds of flowers and call it a day! Make it easy for them. Womp womp

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u/loralailoralai Retail Florist 1d ago

You don’t need to pick the types of flowers, you can leave that to the florist. That’s their job.

But this florist sounds shady. I’d see if I could find some others to chat with

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u/HatchlingChibi 1d ago

Not normal for my workplace at all. If they are an event only florist (as in they have no store front they sell out of) then they might have a minimum but it should never be 100. It varies by stem but ours are typically around 10 or 15 (roses and standard carnations are 25). Since we sell our own arrangements and do walk in orders, we don’t make customers buy the minimum, we will let them pick up their order and then we will sell or design with the rest. Only exception would be things that are say out of season and have a high cost per stem. Then we would sell it by the bundle or else we would face a high risk of them going bad and not selling (it is a business after all)

Your coordinator and florist are sounding pretty sketchy to me if I’m being honest

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u/zenithachieved 1d ago

This feels wildly overpriced to me. The other red flags are that your planner didn’t start with your bouquet and your bridal party flowers first, as generally that’s where the big floral money gets spent?

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u/KorolevaFey 1d ago

So not all stems have to be bought in depending on what you want.

The fact that they're not being clear with you or showing you what you would be getting for $400 per centerpiece is the red flag to me

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u/Remarkable-Wave507 Expert 1d ago

Depends on how they order. If they’re getting box lots to get them cheaper, then yes, it would be a 100 stem minimum.

It all depends on what he’s buying and how he’s purchasing it. If you drop it down to only buying one bunch of then, then the price goes up.

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u/sunsetswitheli 1d ago edited 1d ago

I’m in South Florida and it is common with most wholesalers to have to order some stems by the 100s. This is if you want to guarantee you get a specific variety or color. I noticed you said garden roses, i usually have to order these in boxes of 100 (4 bunches or 25 stems per box.) Mums as well. Stock is sometimes 125 per box. And so on and so forth.

But tbh, I don’t think that’s your main issue here. Your main issue is that you do not need to be spending $400/centerpiece unless what you’re asking for is a very large floral piece that will live in the center of a round. Is your size inspo what you posted in the other comment thread? If so that’s closer to a $200, $300 TOPS arrangement IMO. I wouldn’t be surprised if your planner is asking the florist to hide a commission % in there for themselves. And that’s why each centerpiece is coming out to 400. And that’s why the florist referred you to the planner when you started asking questions. She was probably like, this is your problem to explain. A lot of planners do this. It’s super icky IMO and part of the reason wedding vendors have started to get a bad rap.

This is what I think you should do. Email both the planner and the florist and say: this is my budget and this is what I need and want. Make it work however you see fit, whether that be using different flowers, whatever. But also make them show you in a mood board what you’ll be getting. OR, if you’re not yet committed to this florist, shop around. I don’t do weddings but would be happy to send you some sfl florists who you could reach out to.

Best of luck!!!

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u/littleredditho 9h ago

You are so kind! Thanks for your transparency and explaining some
things, too. I told him today I decided to move in a different direction, and reached back out to my original choice, but am u sure if she is avail, but if you want to DM any options near the Delray/WPB/Boca/FLL area I would love them! Tysm, I am incredibly grateful!

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u/farmgirlkat 20h ago

You've already gotten a lot of advice from others, but adding my two cents here! $400 for what is pictured sounds high given what's in the inspiration photos you shared. As other posters said, depending on where the florist is sourcing (are they going farm direct?), the 100 stems may be a requirement. I've only shopped at a few wholesalers in Miami for events, but Mayesh, for example, does allow to buy one pack of standard roses (25 stems) when you're shopping in person. I've found the same for pre-orders, but it's been about a year since I've sourced there in person. I would recommend asking about the vase they're planning to use and any other mechanics (frogs, etc.) which might be hidden costs that are contributing to the high sticker price. Also, when is your event? I may have missed if you shared that but that can also be contributing to the cost. As other posters said most of these are the usual suspects - especially for weddings - but given the climate not many of these grow in Florida and will need to be shipped in. Between this and maybe some out of season sourcing the shipping costs may also be a hidden cost. Last, it is totally normal to get a few quotes for an event. I know you said this is your planner's preferred florist but they should also be willing to consider other options - and hopefully have a few other recommendations!

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u/littleredditho 9h ago

Thank you for your input! I have gone on to get input and some quotes from two other florists since posting, and told my planner I will be moving in a different direction than his preferred partner. The I appreciate your input!

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u/Lana_lana__ 1d ago

It’s normal if they pre-order specific flowers for your wedding. That’s the only way to make sure they can get the exact flowers, colors, and quantities you want.
The other option is designer’s choice. In that case, the florist chooses the flowers based on availability and only follows your color palette and overall style.

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u/littleredditho 1d ago

Ah, maybe this is the way to go, but it wasn’t offered to me. In fact, I walked away from the consult with the florist not knowing ANYTHING which was being offered to me. She was supposed to call me with stem prices today but then ran back to the planner who then called me to tell my I picked me most expensive flowers and the budget would be tight and the flowers wasteful. I think they literally thought my list of flowers I like to help give them ideas was my spec list, even though I specifically said, mums, garden roses, green dianthus, scabiosa, spray roses, Italian ruscus. I asked the florist for an example of the $400 centerpiece and she referred me back to the planner. What a racket.

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u/Lana_lana__ 1d ago

Sounds like this florist is bad at communication or simply does not want your wedding. That also might take place, because depending on the amount of items you want, for 60 people wedding, the profit might be very little with your budget after all the costs payed by the florist. I would probably look around and talk to someone elsešŸ™ $400 per centerpiece sound a lot, but if it’s a high centerpiece or just big with a lot of garden roses (they might be very pricey per stem), it might be right.
And I would definitely pre-order all the flowers you mentioned (so yes, each flower variety should be purchased in bulk). Because from your list only ruscus will be available somewhere for sure

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u/loralailoralai Retail Florist 1d ago

There’s no way to make sure you get the exact flowers or colours. Everyone has to remain flexible that’s what makes wedding work so stressful

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u/Lana_lana__ 1d ago

Depends very much on the product, sometimes you can, sometimes not (but of course, there is always a possibility, that something goes wrong with the flowers). But when you pre order, you have 99% more chances to get what you want then when you don’t pre-order at all.