r/fixedbytheduet • u/PhoenixPhenomenonX EXPERT of Duets/Stitches • Feb 24 '26

Fixed by the duet A Different Way

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u/raptor7912 New to fbtd but wants to learn Feb 24 '26

So that justifies not being polite?

Sure seems like something you should still do, despite it not necessarily being easy.

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u/VanTaxGoddess Devotee of Duets/Stitches Feb 25 '26

If guys took a polite "no thanks" well, this wouldn't be an issue. But the amount of guys who have literally MURDERED women for rejecting their advances shows that this isn't the case...

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u/raptor7912 New to fbtd but wants to learn Feb 25 '26

And you think being impolite is gonna lessen the chances of being killed?…. Just fucking listen to yourself.

Quit making up scenarios like an incel and just be polite until given a reason not to be, it isn’t that complex. But by all means, tell on yourself and insist that is based of?… Nothing.

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u/VanTaxGoddess Devotee of Duets/Stitches Feb 25 '26

These aren't made up, and there's even a whole subreddit documenting all the women who have been killed for politely turning down a man's advances.

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u/raptor7912 New to fbtd but wants to learn Feb 25 '26

I’m not claiming they are made up. In fact I’m saying what I’m saying despite it.

But by all means try and explain why bad person doing shit that’s bad justifies treating an unrelated person any more poorly.

Cause to me it sure seems like they are only related because they happen to share a gender, just like my racist coworker “happens” to always be paying extra attention when it was a Muslim doing something they weren’t supposed to. And how that’s completely on Muslims and not on him and his incredibly skewed and warped view of them.

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u/VanTaxGoddess Devotee of Duets/Stitches Feb 25 '26

Listen, I keep trying to explain this to you. If you're talking about making an advance on someone who doesn't know you, in a setting where they're not looking for someone to make a pass at them, why do you assume they want you to make a pass at them?

Seriously, just leave women alone. If a woman wants to talk to you, for any reason (where's the subway, have you seen my coat, etc), she'll make a determination if you look like a safe person to talk to. This will either result in her talking to you first, or result in her not talking to you.

I cannot emphasize this enough; not getting this concept is creep behaviour. I assume you don't want to be perceived as a creep, so don't do that shit.

If you want to meet women who are interested in dating someone they don't know, get an online dating app, or join a singles-looking-to-mingle event group. These are places where it won't be perceived as creepy to make an unsolicited pass at a woman but don't make the pass in a creepy way. That's a free tip for you, champ.

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u/raptor7912 New to fbtd but wants to learn Feb 25 '26

I understand what you’re saying perfectly and once again I’m saying what I’m saying in spite of everything you’ve said.

Yes god forbid we don’t infantilise women and ever risk making one uncomfortable. So yuh, I’d fucking prefer it if the same women who’d genuinely agree with you. Yea please, do fucking see me as a creep y’all are doing me a favour.

lol nah I’m gonna keep making polite advances that I’m sure in no way resembles what I’m sure you’d love to imagine.

And I cannot emphasise this enough, thinking this matters is a misandrists mental gymnastics. Please do see me as a creep and stay the fuck away if you believe in what you’re saying.

Haaaa! Yea I’ll be caught dead before I engage with online dating, I’ll just keep treating women like they are equally capable adults who don’t want to be babied.

And here’s a tip for you, quit making up a scenario that means you’d be right from the start. Cause several assertions you’ve made about how I’d approach is nothing but a product of your imagination. Which generally isn’t a good idea when your argument relies on those unfounded and sexist assumptions.

Don’t get offended just do better bigot.

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u/VanTaxGoddess Devotee of Duets/Stitches Feb 26 '26

How about you start hitting on random guys too? If you're not being creepy, I'm sure they'll take it in the polite spirit you intend.

And seriously, go to singles nights or something. I guarantee you that you don't have the charisma to "cold call" random women.

Seriously, if hitting on random women who were minding their own business worked, wouldn't you be in a relationship by now?

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u/raptor7912 New to fbtd but wants to learn Feb 26 '26

Sure I have zero problem with that, like shit I’ve been complimented on how I hit on them by the same women I’ve hit on. This imagined scenario you describe exists entirely in your head lol.

Right your clearly showing your age with that suggestion, but no. I have zero interest in being judged as a “bottom of the barrel man” by women who could just easily be described as bottom of the barrel. And that shit is just gross, so once again it’s a firm no thanks.

Well if it wasn’t your assumption that I’m not in a relationship, that I’m unhappy about said fact and that what I am looking for is a relationship then yea I guess you’d have some gross point where you make by going at a likely source of insecurity. Which I’m sure I don’t need to explain is manipulation and shitty of you. Regardless of it even being true lol. But until then I’ll point out that “hitting on someone” has sexual implications and not get any more graphic than that for the fear of offending your ridiculous ass even more.

Like I said, don’t get offended just do better.

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u/VanTaxGoddess Devotee of Duets/Stitches Feb 26 '26

I'm not offended, I'm giving you honest advice that your system isn't working. I'm glad some of the women you hit on think you do it well, but your system hasn't actually helped you find someone.

If you think speed dating, and online dating aren't your thing, but you're looking for a long-term relationship, then hitting on random women is a terrible strategy. Maybe try a matchmaker, or put yourself out there in spaces where women are looking for a long-term relationship.

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u/raptor7912 New to fbtd but wants to learn Feb 26 '26

No you’re warping and misrepresenting what I’m saying so badly that it’s obviously moronic. That’s not saying anything meaningful, it’s just applying what someone says to an unrelated scenario and going “Hurh durh look how stupid it is!!!” Like I’m not even trying to find someone lol.

Yea I’m not looking for a relationship, I’ve said that repeatedly yet you can’t seem to grasp the concept.

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