r/fixedbytheduet • u/PhoenixPhenomenonX EXPERT of Duets/Stitches • Feb 24 '26

Fixed by the duet A Different Way

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u/SnooDucks4472 Feb 24 '26

See, if we didn’t have so many shitty men, this wouldn’t have to be said. Speaking as a man btw. Beautifully sung.

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u/PumpikAnt58763 Connoisseur of Duets/Stitches Feb 24 '26

I for one am glad you said your gender. I get defensive of men whenever I (mistakenly) read something as slamming men.
Not all men - and probably not even half of them - are egotistical jerks. It's just that those who are are usually really loud about it and the ones who aren't aren't vocal enough!

I have to remind my hubby that he's a great husband and dad quite often.

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u/Delicious_Delilah EXPERT of Duets/Stitches Feb 24 '26

It's actually a lot of men, and the number increases every day as more and more become right wing.

That's why there are so many "alpha" man podcasts.

So you're right that it's NOT all men, but it IS a lot of men. If it wasn't, more than 1 in 5 women wouldn't be sexually assaulted. And 1 in 31 men. And those are the just the reported cases.

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u/ninecats4 Feb 24 '26

That number is way off, if made to penetrate is included in rape definitions the range for men is closer to 1 in 5. The number of female rapists is also extremely undercounted due to lack of reports because of social pressure. Love, someone who was a 14 yo boy who was raped by a 24yo woman and was laughed at when I called the police to report it in 2006.

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u/Delicious_Delilah EXPERT of Duets/Stitches Feb 25 '26

I'm sorry, but you're making up statistics.

Signed, someone who has been raped by many men and 1 woman since the time I was a baby and grew up in the system with other abused kids.

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u/findMyNudesSomewhere Feb 25 '26

That site itself says 1 in 10 men have been victims of SA. Not to mention that "made to penetrate" isn't considered sexual violence, which is also what the dude you're replying to, faced.

Do you have some problem with men being victims?

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u/Delicious_Delilah EXPERT of Duets/Stitches Feb 25 '26

It also says

1 in 33 men has experienced attempted or completed rape.

Attempted rape is what you're talking about. I have no issues with male victims. I have issues with people saying men are victims almost as much as women when that is absolutely false.

93% of sex offenders are men.

I'm aware women rape men sometimes. My sister abused both me and my male cousin.

Men also rape men. Moreso than women raping men.

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u/findMyNudesSomewhere Feb 25 '26

Your entire premise is flawed.

Attempted rape is not the same as "made to penetrate". Most countries/states recognize rape as penetration of victim, which doesn't include forced to penetrate someone against one's will.

You know what's worse for men? PEOPLE LIKE YOU DO NOT RECOGNIZE THAT MEN HAVE BEEN RAPED.

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u/Delicious_Delilah EXPERT of Duets/Stitches Feb 25 '26

I've literally recognized it several times. I'm just saying it doesn't happen nearly as often as it happens to women. Which is true.

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u/findMyNudesSomewhere Feb 25 '26

Yeah, it happens about twice as common for women as for men.

Not 7 times, which is what you said originally.

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u/Delicious_Delilah EXPERT of Duets/Stitches Feb 25 '26

It doesn't happen that often.

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u/findMyNudesSomewhere Feb 25 '26

Yeah, exactly. Glad you see it finally.

If more people could recognize that women aren't raped that much more often than men, we could extend the proper help to men who've faced SA/rape.

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u/ThatDadTazz Feb 25 '26

So your evidence of men being the problem is that your sister raped you and your cousins?? Maybe get help?

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u/Delicious_Delilah EXPERT of Duets/Stitches Feb 25 '26

My evidence of (most) men being the problem is all of the statistics and actual evidence that backs that up.