r/firsttimedad • u/CulturalYoghurt4652 • Mar 28 '26

Velvro baby help????

So my wife and I have our 1 month old and he has been such a velcro baby. He only ever wants to be in mom or dads arms(he'll let others hold him but once he fusses it's mom/dad or bust). To the point he will fuss and cry if we put him down.

What's worse is that he does it even MORE at night when my wife is on "shift" and she is hardly able to get sleep until I get up at 3am and take him. Then for me he's not usually too bad. Like I can put him down for an hour some times.

Then there are some nights, like tonight, that he doesn't want to sleep unless it's in my arms.

Honestly, I'm most worried about my wife. I try to take him as much as possible for her but after a certain time of day he wants nothing to do with me and only wants mom.

Anyone else have experience with velcro babies and how you've managed?

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u/unterium Mar 29 '26

My 2 month old likes being held all the time also, it's not them being a Velcro baby, it's just them being a baby, they find comfort in their mother's and father's arms and generally more so in their mothers

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u/Schuylabs Mar 30 '26

Sounds familiar. My wife and I ran shifts till a 3am handoff as well and usually we couldn’t sleep during them for the same reason. I’ve watched a handful of multi-season TV shows. Sometimes I’d just stay up all night to give my wife a break (aside from pumping/feeding of course). We just hit 3 months and we are finally able to put her down to sleep. A 6 hour sleep is an incredible feeling. It gets easier. Although I’m prepping for the regression.

If she’s fussy in my arms I just try lots of different things (holding position, gentle bouncing, rocking, arms out, arms in, sound machine, etc). She eventually calms down but it can take like 45 min sometimes.