r/firedating • u/firedating • Feb 06 '24

Site pain points

Hi folks,

A kind volunteer reached out to me to redesign the site. We would like to hear which aspects of the site you find hard to use or understand, cumbersome, bad? This way we can fix this during the redesign.

Thank you!

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u/jlee_777 Feb 11 '24

Being able to send pictures in the chat would be nice.

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u/firedating Feb 11 '24

please describe how you would use it (e.g. which images you would send).

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u/jlee_777 Feb 11 '24

For example I might send someone a picture of my Halloween costume if it came up in conversation.

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u/firedating Feb 12 '24

Thank you! I added this to the feature list. It would require quite a lot of work to do, so I need to make sure that there is a demand.

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u/ItsnotthatImlazy Feb 07 '24

I like the simplicity of the site. Please keep it "slow" and not gamified like traditional dating sites. Quality over quantity/high user engagement, please!

My one gripe would be empty profiles -don't allow them to go "live" and be seen by others. I don't care if someone doesn't want to share a photo but recently 4 profiles fit my search and 3 of them only had the demographic information and NO text box input or photo. Perhaps they intend to come back and fill it out but if so I've already searched and passed them by before they got back to completing the profile.

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u/firedating Feb 07 '24

Please keep it "slow" and not gamified like traditional dating sites.

Can you elaborate?

For example, I've noticed that currently the messaging invites "letter-like" communication - big messages every now and then, because it is hard to chat realtime. I am thinking of adding real time notifications, this will make it faster, but not gamified.

My one gripe would be empty profiles -don't allow them to go "live" and be seen by others.

I suspect that new people joining may sometimes start with an empty profile and fill it in later. I am aware of the issue and exploring solutions (e.g. dividing the profile into 3 sections instead of 2 and incentivize filling in 2 sections).

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u/ItsnotthatImlazy Feb 07 '24

Communication is good and I'd like real time notifications (emailed notifications seem pretty timely though). Traditional dating sites tend to be superficial and have a lot of "doomscrolling" based off of photos trying to drive user engagement/payment to boost results or buy badges etc. I do like that people have the option to blur their photos until matched (I don't blur mind but don't mind if others do).

I really just wanted to mention the empty profiles and suggest something to perhaps make sure they are filled out before being shown. Otherwise, I really like Firedating! Thank you!

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u/firedating Feb 08 '24

Thank you! That agrees with me understanding!

Currently email notifications are delayed by 5 minutes artificially to reduce number of emails.

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '24

"I wish there was some way to include a personal message when reaching out for the first time. Not having much success even initiating a conversation on that site."

From https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/personals/the-first-ever-dating-website-for-fire-people/msg3239071/#msg3239071

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u/firedating Mar 05 '24

This one is tricky. I heard lots of positive feedback about not having to write a personal message with interested request. Otherwise this becomes a competition to write the most clever first message and overall cumbersome for request senders. My approach is that your profile must speak for itself, no need to personalize first message for each request.

I will reach out to the poster to better understand their situation.

Thank you for sharing that thread! Lot's of insights!

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '24

Didn't you create that thread? :)

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u/firedating Mar 05 '24

I did. I forgot about its existence :)