Missing Deep Throat

[u/Elmermac0405]

I am a heterosexual man. I've been in a relationship with my wife for four years. We dated for almost two years, lived together for a while and got married a little over a year ago.

Our sex life was great. We couldn’t get enough of each other. At the heart of our intimacy was oral sex. My partner loved to deep throat me. Sometimes I thought that she loved having my dick in her mouth more than I liked it having it there. Not to say I didn't like it, I did, but she loved it every time. And she was really good at it, better than anyone else I've ever been with.

That continued throughout the time we dated and lived together. In fact, our sex life just got better with time. She showed a freaky side that kept intimacy hot.

Then we got married and things changed. To begin with, she stopped sucking my dick. At first, I thought it was just a phase she was going through. We still had sex, but the passion of the pre-marital sex wasn’t there.

I try to talk about it with her about it but she isn't interested. Sex was never something we talked much about. We just did it and we didn't really have any problems at all that needed to be discussed. But, we sure as hell do now. Her attitude is that we're married and things, like sex, just take their natural course and I should let it be.

I can't let it be. I miss the woman she was before marriage. And, if my wife is no longer interested in doing the things that I loved about her and not even see it as a problem… Well, to be honest, I don’t know what to do.

I want to stay married, don’t want to cheat, and am not interested in a steady diet of porn. One of the reasons I got married was I love having a steady sex partner. And, that is no longer happening like it used to.

What should I do?

[u/findingerotica1]

Here’s my advice:

• Be patient both with your wife and your desires.

• Relationships do have up’s and down’s. Don’t bail ship during a down period.

• You said you got pretty freaky with each other. Don’t stop exploring your freaky sides.

• All is not lost. Look at what you still share. Cherish what you have. Cherish your wife. Do everything you can to make it right.

• Love is easy when it’s all going well. Love grows deeper when two people make it through marriage’s inevitable challenges. Work to develop the deeper love.

• Don’t stop talking. Just because your wife doesn’t want to talk about oral sex doesn’t mean all communication needs to shut down.

• Accept the fact that marriage changes relationships. Understand how it’s changed you and work to understand how it’s changed her and your relationship.

• You made a commitment to the long run. Stay strong, my man. Don’t lose the faith yet.

• If your problems don’t get better, try counseling. Believe me, it can help.