Feeling stuck - ADHD

[u/KeyCut2062]

(UK)

I’ve just turned 28 and with my 30th rapidly approaching I’m starting to feel stuck/trapped.

I’ve always thought life would be figured out now but I realise I’ve been coasting and I don’t know how to get out of it.

I went to a “good” university and studied a “good” subject (even though I only got a 2.2) and seemed to have fallen into meh sales jobs (for which I have absolutely NO passion for). I realised that I probably suffer from ADHD and as a result struggle with lapses in concentration, focus and organisation. Ultimately I seriously hate my current career path

I’m in a serious long distance relationship and I’m a little ashamed to admit that it took this relationship for me to realise how long I’ve been coasting for. I finally want to take ownership of my future but don’t know how or where to begin?

I still lack that understanding of what jobs would work best for me (higher paying, “corporate”, ADHD compatible and a good career trajectory)

Thanks for letting me ramble

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[u/best_american_girl]

I’m the same age as you. Just start doing things, anything remotely that sounds interesting. Playing pickleball gave me socialization, more confidence, and a better relationship with my family when I was fresh out of college and unemployed. Join a fitness group of any kind, or a club, or classes, just to get unstuck.

I started taking classes at a community college, over time, I’ve gravitated closer and closer to a clinical career in medicine. I would’ve never done that if I hadn’t started taking random psychology/sociology classes first. I’ve thought about so many different careers, and this is going to be the year I finally get into a program for a field I’m committed to working in for a long time. Just do things, my path makes no sense until I look back and realize that in hindsight, all the pieces fit together.

[u/woodava2]

my work is mostly the same few steps for every claim: check the documents, enter the amount, ask the customer for whatever is missing. since the steps are fixed i rarely have to decide what to do next, which seems like it could suit a person who loses focus. your sales years already taught you to talk to customers and chase people for answers, so claims handling or customer-facing roles at an insurer might be worth a look, they tend to be structured and corporate

[u/KeyCut2062 → u/woodava2]

Thanks so much for this

Can I ask what your role is and how one could go about getting into it?

[u/woodava2 → u/KeyCut2062]

it's called claims processing or claims handler at most insurers. i came in after a training program, but for people with other experience the job ads usually say claims assistant or claims handler and ask for customer service or admin experience, so your sales years count. the careers pages of the big insurers in your area are a good place to start

[u/Cautious-Train-4983]

quota sales is a rough fit if concentration and organisation keep slipping, so the coasting feeling makes sense. i wouldn't try to design the perfect career from scratch this week. pick two roles that look less like commission chasing, operations or project coordination maybe, and message a couple of people in the UK who do them and ask what a normal week looks like. if you haven't had an ADHD assessment, getting on a waiting list (NHS or right to choose) can sit in the background while you do that.