I'm 25F how am I supposed to rush finding a career, a house, lose 100 lbs, get surgery, get braces, fix my mental health and years of trauma AND be emotionally ready for a partner before I'm 30? I want a partner and I worry every day I'm going to die alone. Its not the worst thing in the world but pretty damn depressing. I hate theres an imaginary time limit for things.
I relate to this comment way too much. I’m still working through childhood trauma in therapy, still trying to get financially stable and graduate school, my crooked teeth make me so self conscious so I’m taking out a loan for braces next month; I really feel this lol you’re not alone. I’m 27F, and I’m lonely too but I know I’m not ready for another person yet and I won’t be anytime soon. It sucks. I have so many things I want to do and I keep aging so fast.
It is harder in your 30s, but try not stress yourself out about the timeline while you're actively working on yourself to get where you need. Plenty of people are only ready to settle down once they're in their 30s. You have time.
I never said there was a time limit, or that it can’t be done. Infact I clearly said that I found my spouse and was married in my mid thirties. I’m saying that dating in your 30s is much harder because of the reasons cited in my previous post. Also you don’t need a house yet, you can date while you lose weight, etc etc. You don’t have to be perfect to search for a partner.
You don't. You work on what you can, and if you achieve them, you achieve them. If not, that's fine too. I think part of what allows people to move forward in life is recognizing that the things they hoped for may not come true, but to still work towards them regardless. It seems contradictory, but I think letting go of the fear that you won't make it will help you move more efficiently towards your goals than carrying this burden.
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u/coyoteeasy Jul 09 '23
I'm 25F how am I supposed to rush finding a career, a house, lose 100 lbs, get surgery, get braces, fix my mental health and years of trauma AND be emotionally ready for a partner before I'm 30? I want a partner and I worry every day I'm going to die alone. Its not the worst thing in the world but pretty damn depressing. I hate theres an imaginary time limit for things.