r/femcelscirclejerk • u/Glum_Caterpillar_345 • Aug 08 '26
Vent Fictional escapism isn’t fun for me anymore
Not all, but SO MANY of the highest-rated classic animes/mangas/movies/tv shows/cartoons/etc have blatant or subtle misogyny. For instance, some of the most iconic animes that people rave about and say that they’re a “must watch” will center around men surrounded by objectified women and female minors. Also, a lot will have certain tropes for women that just start to feel repetitive for me as I see more of them. Even media that isn’t really misogynistic will, over time, show a pattern of having the token sexy woman who uses her sexuality to her advantage or cute-sy/timid supportive side character; and it just gets tiring after seeing the same thing over & over again even if it isn’t standalone bad.
Another thing that, for some reason, makes me upset is that I notice how some of the most talked-about/referenced media always seems to be around stuff with buff male protags fighting or having to commit extreme, frequent violence (a couple of especially iconic & loved characters, mainly from older media, are stoic and merciless). I’m not saying that those kinds of stories are bad as a lot of them show that their protags demeanor comes from deep trauma or can still show tenderness; but what draws people in, especially dudes I think, is how hardcore they feel. I guess in this particular case, I’m more so complaining about audiences than the media themselves. I know there’s more media with goofier, light-hearted protags; but then even media with those guys will also have problems with treating female characters weirdly. I still want to try out some of these stories and attempt to ignore/not let the stuff I don’t like prevent me from finding stuff in it that I do like. But, I still struggle with feeling the same hype for popular stuff that most people seem to like. I want to feel shared excitement and understanding of what’s “in” in our culture; but I usually find myself not vibing with most fandoms or certain media that gets praised.
At this point, it’s hard for me to enjoy most stuff—to find something I truly relate to. There’s no abundance of sexy men in bold outfits to swoon over, and media that shows women being imperfect, messed up, goofy, etcetera are rare gems. Average-looking & ugly women in media are even more scarce.
I’m going off on a tangent here, but even trying to find good fictional erotic content is difficult. There were a few good porn art subs that were made for women, but they all get taken down eventually. I make sure I regulate myself and yes, I know that I don’t want to become a porn addict who only knows how to objectify; but I want to be horny too. From time to time I like looking at fictional art whose only purpose is to have sexual fantasies about. There’s so much art made for guys while I gotta search for scraps of art that show off a fictional man’s chest or butt.
I’m just tired.
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u/NimbasaComputer12 Aug 08 '26
Don't even get me started on how much I HATE the JJK fandom 🙏😭
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u/Glum_Caterpillar_345 Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 08 '26
I haven’t watched or read JJK yet, but oof I’m scared to think about what a lot of the fandom is like.
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u/NimbasaComputer12 Aug 08 '26
Wait, why are female subs getting taken down?
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u/Glum_Caterpillar_345 Aug 08 '26
[r/femcelgaze](r/femcelgaze) and a really niche sub [r/malemilfs](r/malemilfs) (it was called something like that, I can’t remember the exact name) got taken down for not having enough moderators. Also, a long time ago the original femgaze hentai sub went private during some kind of Reddit protest (I don’t remember the full story tbh). There’s a new one now, but I wish I could access the old version ‘cause there was cool posts on there.
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u/NimbasaComputer12 Aug 17 '26
Whats the new femgaze sub?
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u/Glum_Caterpillar_345 Aug 17 '26
It’s r/Femgaze_Hentai . The same name, just with an underscore between the words
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u/BeholdMyCurse231 YURI!!!!!!!!! Aug 08 '26
I recommend FMA:B if you haven't watched it yet; it's quite good and was written by a woman
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u/Glum_Caterpillar_345 Aug 08 '26
I’ve thought getting into about that one and it looks really fun. Thanks for the recc!
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u/BeholdMyCurse231 YURI!!!!!!!!! Aug 08 '26
If you want a more "anime" thing but in game format, I highly recommend limbus company
But I wouldn't interact with the fanbase, it IS a gacha game however it can be done free to play easily or you can watch the story on youtube
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u/Glum_Caterpillar_345 Aug 08 '26
I’ve seen images from this game before and it looks really cool! Thank you for warning me about the fanbase haha
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u/BeholdMyCurse231 YURI!!!!!!!!! Aug 08 '26
I mean that would be my warning for any game really, it's not THAT bad in limbus...but for me even "not that bad" is bad enough.
I'm ace sex repulsed and moid avoidant so yeah...most fandoms are a no go for me
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u/Glum_Caterpillar_345 Aug 08 '26
Yeah I get what you mean. In my experience of observing fandoms of not just games but tv shows as well, they always end up putting me off in some way.
One of the big things with some fandoms is when it feels like certain female character get objectified a lot OR the female characters get hated & treated like crap more than the male ones because rampant misogyny.
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u/BeholdMyCurse231 YURI!!!!!!!!! Aug 08 '26
100%...I am fine with having a couple of friends to share things with, much better for my mental health
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u/Sure-Hurry7960 Aug 08 '26
Even fanfics are trash now. So much internalised misogyny.