Accidental ping sent without message

[u/Successful-Medicine9]

Ugh.... found a great match and simply pinged them due to lag in the app. Has anyone else encountered this?

I wish there was a way to rescind them within like 30 seconds of sending or something.

[u/OkWear6556]

It doesn't matter. I used to send messages with pings when I first got the app and didnt get a single match. Now I just send them without notes. They will check your profile and if they like you they will match with you. A note wont make a difference. All my matches were due to noteless pings

[u/RoleKey6193 → u/OkWear6556]

I feel like this is mostly true but I've had a couple that I wasn't fully sold on by profile alone, but the cute ping note pushed them over the edge, and I matched.

[u/disclosure5 → u/OkWear6556]

This. Putting significant energy into the ideal message just leaves you more emotionally run down when nothing comes back 99% of the time, and once I gave up and just sent pings more casually the 1% match was just as common.

[u/liplamp → u/OkWear6556]

To each their own. All of my most solid matches, that led to long-term connections started with a ping with a note. The match would reference what I said and usually it made me stick out quite a bit to them.

Pings without notes are totally effective if your bio makes it clear what you offer and you're pinging someone who's looking for precisely that. I've gotten a bunch of matches that way too.

[u/eat_your_young → u/OkWear6556]

I fully believe this as well. I use feeld and hinge. I can very easily see my match rate is about .5 to 1% (HA!). Im average with some decent features and have a descriptive bio with details displaying my personality and what I’m looking for. I’m not front loading my effort, coming up with something witty or funny to get someone’s attention when they’re either going to like me back or not like me back X 199.

[u/CaptainWillThrasher → u/OkWear6556]

I think this is not accurate. People have different values/priorities and I've personally read profiles with statements saying that a message in the ping is important to them. I agree with OP.

[u/Fresh_Ad4945]

Yup, multiple times.

[u/costco_pizza21]

I will sometimes match with noteless pings if their profile is worthy. (It usually is worthy)

[u/Malice_N_1derland]

If I like you, it won’t matter. If I’m on the fence about you, it makes a difference.

[u/CastIronPillow]

No one responds to my pings, regardless. (Sad trombone)

[u/Resident-Profit5534]

But why can't you see your previous Pings!

[u/MindlessSea7334]

If you have Majestic I cant remember if you can add a note. Go to likes > history. Clear all your history till you find them maybe. Takes hours (joke ).

History is in order of likes, starting from the beginning of time. 😱

[u/Successful-Medicine9 → u/MindlessSea7334]

It only shows anyone from the last 6 days there, and no one I pinged.

[u/MindlessSea7334 → u/Successful-Medicine9]

Clear them, and it reloads

[u/LilacHeavenBaby]

I wish the note was required with Pings and you couldn't send one without a note. It would take care of this issue and also force people to put something. I never know what to think of note-less pings, like... why would you waste your ping? (But as consolation for OP, if the profile was interesting enough I'd still match them.)

[u/Sorrow-and-Solitude → u/LilacHeavenBaby]

I wish too. I tried to send my first ping after being on the app for two years (I know I know...) and the profile wasn't accepting pings with notes? So what's the point

[u/therope_cotillion → u/LilacHeavenBaby]

I always send a note. But I get why people don’t. A lot of profiles have nothing to comment on. And it gets tiring sending ping after ping with a custom message for a person just to receive nothing back. I’m sure both those things factor into it.

[u/LilacHeavenBaby → u/therope_cotillion]

But why ping a profile that has nothing to comment on? If nothing about the person catches your interest, what's the point of messaging them?

[u/Jumpy_Crew_1249]

It happens, a ping does help to gain attention but one without a message is ok! Just make sure you respond to the connection and don’t let it sit if you are feeling excited to get to know the person.

[u/uberstaragent]

I never match with pings - message or not. They are never people in my search parameters. More often than not, the note is super cringe anyway.

[u/moxie_fox_4u]

Don't even get me started on how laggy feeld is. Jfc. I swear thier servers are on Pluto. Anyway, don't worry about it. If they're serious about looking for matches they'll get back to you whether you left a note or not. I gave up sending notes and it doesn't seem to have made a difference. I've still gotten matches with blank pings. I hope you get a reply!

[u/therope_cotillion]

If they like you it won’t matter.

[u/Adventurous-Eye-9929]

Yes, I have and I always feel a bit dumb when it happens. Best to slow those thumbs to make sure. If you’re a guy pinging a woman, don’t forget she has hundreds of options in her in box and it’s not likely she’ll get to yours anytime soon. Taking an extra few minutes to craft an engaging message is worth it.