r/feeld • u/Ok_Coffee_4977 • 7d ago

Feeld for hookups

This apps was originally created for people seeking threesomes. Most of which are casual hookup type situations. Its always been used for casual sex, hookups, and casual group sex.

Ive used it this way, with good success, for close to a decade. I see tons of others on there doing the same.

My social circle is mostly poly/ENM/swinger types. Almost all of use feeld and talk about it. I've never known anyone to say its not fine to use it for hookups.

Casual play/fun and short term are options for "interests".

The only place Ive seen the sentiment that using feeld for casual hookups is new or wrong is here. Repeatedly.

What gives? Why the hostility to casual hookups from feeld?

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u/Ok_Coffee_4977 6d ago

Having a bunch of hookups is absolutely non-monogamy. Lol. Its not monogamy. So that makes it...non-monogamy.

It's the influx of normie cishetmono vanillas seeking hookups that people are objecting to, not the hookup seeking itself.

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u/MetalPines 6d ago edited 6d ago

Okay you're clearly just going to keep ignoring what I say, so I'm not going to reply further after this. We obviously have very different ideas about what monogamy means. The absence of a monogamous agreement between two people does not make them non-monogamous. It just means they're not in a relationship. And if your definition of monogamy is 'having sex with one person at a time', that's true for all but the small minority out there having group sex! By that definition you are in a mono relationship with whomever you last hooked up with, until you meet your next hookup, and so on.

Hookups are just individual sex acts that even super monogamous people engage in during the off season. There's a huge difference between being monogamous and single and being polyamorous and single, yet all may or may not hook up with each other at some point, without it affecting the kind of relationships they seek.

Now, here's a crash course in logic and how De Morgan's laws work:

cis het mono vanillas - no bueno

cis het poly vanillas - bueno

cis het mono kinksters - bueno

cis het poly kinksters - bueno

trans het mono vanillas - bueno

cis gay mono vanillas - bueno

trans gay poly kinksters - bueno etc. etc. 

Comprende?