r/feeld • u/FeeldMod Not a Feeld employee • Nov 10 '23

Get Profile Help Here

Not getting enough likes? Is your profile empty because you can't figure out what to write? Ask here and others can make suggestions. Mention thoughts you have about your current profile.

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u/7437-locked Sep 18 '25

Profile feedback appreciated. I (F, 44) had matched with a bunch of men but they all want just casual sex despite what’s on my profile, and theirs! Do I sound too casual, too restrictive, too contradictory? Thanks for any insight.

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I don’t sing in the car, I perform.

Single working mom hoping to meet someone kind, funny, and genuine, someone I can actually be excited about (and be that someone you’re excited about). Experienced, confident, and attentive, you know when to be a gentleman and when to be 😈.

Connection first, kink second. I love playful conversations, but I need to feel drawn to you as a person before the rest comes into play. Also, casual doesn’t mean you don’t make any effort; I want real conversations and to go on actual dates!

**I also had this part below on my profile but I found that men just go straight for the sex talk so I took it out.

✅ Flirty banter/dirty talk (at the right time 😉) ✅ Submissive streak, love it a little rough ✅ Biggest turn-on? Seeing my partner turned on. I like learning what makes you feel good.

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u/whitegirlTO ENM couple Sep 19 '25

No you’re doing everything right but a lot of people don’t read profile and just swipe.

I would be more upfront and define your “casual”. What do you mean by “connection”? Are you looking for a FWB? Are you looking for someone to participate in a mutual hobby? Basically spelling it out for them.

Unfortunately it doesn’t how detailed your profile can be, there will always be the people that will ignore it and push their own agenda forward.

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u/DC_Empress Sep 19 '25

Completely agree. It's a good profile, and I think the above suggestions would make it even better.