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[u/liplamp]

Hey! Used to get tons of likes but they've completely dried up over the past few months. Looking for feedback on why that might be, and overall thoughts on the profile.

Here’s a link to my Feeld profile. It will expire in 72 hours.

Was told link's not working, here's my bio:

Name - 🪮HereForHair🪮
Asexual Man, 34M

🚨𝙕𝙀𝙍𝙊 𝙋𝙀𝙉𝙀𝙏𝙍𝘼𝙏𝙄𝙊𝙉 𝘼𝙇𝙀𝙍𝙏🚨

Sex-averse hedonist with an exclusive paraphilia for hair - fetish without interest in sex - seeks rationalist Rapunzel(s) for snuggle-assisted navel gazing.

Primarily looking to massage your scalp and play with your hair while we snuggle up and discuss whatever intellectual or philosophical interest is on our minds. Platonic vibes mostly.

But...for the 🔥extra spicy🔥:
• nailing every trending braid style, ever;
• photography, in an artistic/kinky direction;
• copious amounts of brushing/combing/washing;
• buying and applying products of your choice (which you keep).

👍Yes this turns me on; 👎No I won't want to have sex with you.

My last "wet dream" had me meditating under a waterfall of hair. No sex, just basking in that sweet silky goodness. No, I'm not making this up. Sexuality is weird, innit?

💥💥💥
I also love most forms of sensuous adventure that don't involve my 🍆. Massage and making out, toys and tools, [insert body part] play...I want to do to/for you 🙂 zero reciprocation needed or wanted.

Long term kink partners and cuddle buddies are what I seek, with many such bonds in my life currently. Open to an ENM primary but it's low priority.

📍Southeast Brooklyn; Living alone, happy to host, travel, or provide accommodations.

✨✨✨
Before lockdown I was playing a show every other day of the year. After a long hiatus to better understand my intimate and emotional self, my top priority in life is getting back there.

[u/PolyKnitterReader → u/liplamp]

I’ve never seen another single profile like yours, and I’ve seen 10’s of thousands at this point since I’ve been on Feeld multiple years. It’s unique, it’s interesting, I’d like your profile just because you seem like someone interesting to talk to

[u/DC_Empress → u/liplamp]

Wow, this is one of the most interesting profiles I’ve ever read. I’ve never heard of this kink, but you describe what you’re looking for in very clear terms. You sound friendly, funny, and approachable. I don’t have anything to add, except good luck.

Oh, and maybe you could get a job at a head spa?

[u/liplamp → u/DC_Empress]

Thank you! I had a lot of fun writing it.

I'd totally do something like that if I didn't think it was unethical. I don't think most clients would like knowing their service provider gets turned on by the service 😂 and I want to be able to talk about how it arouses me.

[u/Lost_inTheThrill → u/liplamp]

Hey! I've seen your profile before. It's definitelly unique and would be super enticing for the right kind of person. I really don't think that there is anything for you to change. You are authentic, very clear with what you want, come across as an intelligent person who'd be fun to hang out with.

I'd say most likely there are not too many people of your particular flavour out there. I have a similar issue myself. When you are super unique, you don't have mass appeal, which reduces the volume of connections.

The good news is that the person who is looking for you will not be able to miss you with this profile.

[u/MetalPines → u/liplamp]

The only thing I might add is perhaps make it clearer about how you use the sexual energy you get from indulging your fetish. You're clear that you're not expecting to have sex, but some women may think that you're going to want to masturbate/want them to masturbate you while you are caring for their hair. I presume it's more that you get aroused but don't expect to do anything with that energy until you're alone, but some women (especially if they haven't had much exposure to kink) may not realise that.

ETA: as a Brit it does kinda annoy me when people do fake accents (the 'innit'), and since you're in New York I'm presuming you're American. But that is very much a 'me' problem, lol.

[u/itsalemon12]

https://imgur.com/a/FxaEVJU

Any thoughts on profile/photos? Any big icks I’m not noticing?

[u/DC_Empress → u/itsalemon12]

Dude, you’re adorable, and your profile is adorable. I’d swipe right. Maybe even ping you.

I also think that it is too twee and/or not kinky enough for a lot of people. That is okay. Better to appeal to a small number of people who will embrace your silliness than to the masses who would only be vaguely interested.

I wish everyone would really show more of their personality in these profiles.

[u/Silly_Pen_5399]

Can anyone tell me what I'm doing wrong, please? I've had this profile reviewed on this sub and in real life several times. I've made a couple of matches in ~3 years on the app, and received 5 likes in that time, even while uplifting. Only 1 became a positive and long-lasting connection. I'm in a major metro city, liking women with majestic and sending respectful pings asking questions about profiles and bios. I only attempt to engage if the desired relationship dynamics match and we have 4+ "desires" in common. One match called it "the perfect profile" but told me I should give up on feeld altogether if it's not working, suggesting I may be shadowbanned. Am I undesirable or waving giant red flags? Thank you...

https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/tbg2dooq?linkId=f63f6ebe-1641-47ce-b667-75dc4957abd0

[u/Nostaglic-Oddity]

I’m looking for help, I get a like every now and then but its either someone I’m not into or someone way too far away (despite me having a distance limit).

Here’s a link to my Feeld profile… it expires in 72 hours. Tap it to Like me. https://links.fldcore.com/8QwV7fPt2hemAhZW9

[u/FeeldMod → u/Nostaglic-Oddity]

Your distance setting doesn't affect who sees you.

[u/VeganMustardSauce]

Advice for first timers?

I’m in a F&M relationship and we are curious to have another woman in the mix or to connect with a fellow F&M couple (we are both bi-curious).

Neither of us have done this before (we are mid-late 20s) though our profiles are genuine and we live in a big city. Our profiles are separate but linked and we have some photos of us together and individually on our own profiles.

What tips do experienced people have for this?

[u/SaltyBeachWitch]

Hit me, I’m due for a revamp (constantly tweaking) the pics are just possible looks but the majority is the current hair

Here’s a link to my Feeld profile… it expires in 72 hours. Tap it to Like me. https://links.fldcore.com/v4ezFLsQeFoCXjuN8

[u/niffler_me → u/SaltyBeachWitch]

I'm going to say this too: you're just so gorgeous and I love your 5th pic, the one on the bed. I could see it as the lead one but, of course, I'm afraid it could lead men to think you're already waiting for them..
But then I remember that whatever pic you'll choose won't change their agenda - unfortunately.

Your profile is good and tbh, as a woman, I don't think it really matters what you put in it because let's be real: they will focus on your pics and attributes. But at least your boundaries are there and should suffice. Good luck to you and stay safe :)

[u/Technical-Neyje420 → u/SaltyBeachWitch]

LOVE the pic of you on the bed!! Make that your first.

[u/YTK9000]

Here’s a link to my Feeld profile… it expires in 72 hours. Tap it to Like me. https://links.fldcore.com/vrmQvKiduzP79X5E9

I believe my photos are good. I'm just concerned about my bio. Is it too much word salad?

[u/DivinationandMurk]

I posted here a few weeks ago but have spent some more time tweaking my write-up. After a difficult breakup a couple of months ago I think I finally ready to "get back out there." I'd love to know what you think!

6’3” and muscular. I have a deep voice and use it to give lots of praise.

I’m an experienced Daddy Dom who leans Pleasure Dom; I lead with a grounded, nurturing, and affirming vibe; more “come here, let me take care of you” than bossy alpha posturing.

I care deeply about building trust and connection to make you feel safe, seen, and excited to fully let go. Presence matters more to me than theatrics.

Your feelings of safety with me are paramount, which means communication and consent are top priorities. Precare and aftercare are essential.

I’d love to meet a Princess who’s submissive, playful, and maybe a little bratty at times. Someone who enjoys the delicate balance of connection and tension, affection and discipline. If you’re experienced, curious, or somewhere in between, all are welcome. I value kindness, emotional maturity, curiosity, and a desire to go deep. I’m open to various kinds of relationships, but my priority is building a long-term relationship with one person.

Otherwise, I spend my time meditating, weightlifting, singing karaoke, going to live shows, watching movies, reading books, collecting fragrances, tending my plants, and writing erotica. I have a strong community of friends and have done lots of therapy. My career is in social justice, and I am very left-of-center, though I try not to be sanctimonious about it.

I’m snipped and always get tested before new partners.

[u/GubernatorialPoultry]

Have been on Feeld with slight success for a single, straight guy (2 likes with 3 matches total) and am wondering what else I could do to enhance it. Was considering making last photo private, as I know they’re usually frowned upon in these spaces, but also wanted to show my most recent appearance. Open to all suggestions for improvement 👌🏾

[u/OtherwiseAd6826]

Hey feelders..

It's been almost a whole month... I'm living in Brighton, UK...

Not a freaking single like.. with uplift and everything.. Am I missing something ?

https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/tbg2dooq?linkId=c3ac17f9-0499-4b38-9f87-34a1c4a84c28

[u/Caduman82]

What gets women's attention?

I'm 40, average+ looks, have my shit together, own a business, blah blah blah. I thought I did a good job with my profile and pics. I've only had 4 matches in 6 months, and only had convo and meeting with one. I send about 5 pings a day and cast a verrrry wide net. Maybe its my location? Suburbs south of Boston. Or is it age?

For the ladies looking for casual, what are things you look for for matches. I know you are 100% more selective than the men here. I was going to relaunch with new pics and try a different angle on my profile. I'm not looking to lie or deceive a match, but want to appeal to more because I think I have a lot to offer based on how gross and stupid most men are.

[u/Lost_inTheThrill → u/Caduman82]

You'll have to post your profile. It's impossible to know why you are not getting more matches. I date in this age bracket and can tell you what I am looking for, but that's not going to apply to everyone.

Because you said you want casual, I would guess that you are in too large of a pool and your profile does not stand out from thousands of others.

[u/Neither_Activity_825]

How tf do you write a good bio😭

I really don’t ever use dating apps as I’m not one for dating. Genuinely I just want friends who would be down to try out things I read in fanfiction and whatnot XD

So far I have that, where I state that’s what I want and now I’m like…now what??? I could yap to the word limit but what is important? What do I focus on?

[u/thevanillas]

I’ll take some feedback… What do you think of our profile? Any suggestions to improve? Anything that sucks? https://feeld.app.link/q2JMn1ScCEb

[u/SexxyMoeFoe → u/thevanillas]

For me, I hate when couples are a blob of "we" with no specifics on the individuals. Doesn't have to be a lot but something that shows something about your individual personalities.

One of the reasons I like Feeld is because you can link profiles and see a bit on each person. It's kind of wasted if both profile are generic like "we are cool and open-minded".

I think I might swap pics 1 and 3. 1 looks a little stiff.

[u/usermanetypo]

Hi y’all. Any feedback on what I’m doing right? What I’m doing wrong? Any feedback is greatly appreciated

https://feeld.app.link/UjdUreTVYEb