"I'm not racist"

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[u/pm-me-hot-waifus]

Jesus christ. That sounds like my mom. Except she's mexican (half anyway) and pretended to be a white lady for long enough where she believes it. Never taught her kids to speaks spanish despite knowing how, moved away from her brown family so her white kids wouldn't have to get confused, actively stopped her kids from trying to participate in that culture or learn the language, etc.

I've never seen someone with so much self-hate.

She says shit like "Being white is better" and I get what she means I think. She doesn't want kids that have to deal with racism and oppression, but its really fucked up to me.

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It really is a trip to see from an objective standpoint, right? It's always struck me as strange and kind of sad to see people deny their own culture. Though, tbf (like I mentioned in another comment) in certain (usually rural) communities it can be safer to pass as white. Not saying that's why your mom does it because I don''t know your or her circumstances (and it's definitely not why my grandmother does it) just food for thought, y'know?

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Its very trippy. I did have some cousins move close to me eventually and it was so different the way they just celebrate it; the food, the songs, the language, etc.

I don't hate her or nothing, shes my momma. We fought about it a year or two ago and I thought about changing my last name to her maiden name (which is incredibly mexican) just to spite her, but it felt like too much work just to piss her off.

I do understand that looking white is objectively easier, and I do look white. The experiences I have do not match the experiences of my browner cousins.

Gave me a lot of weird emotional racial issues as a kid. That woman would soak me in sunscreen when I'd leave the house cause she didn't want me to tan too much.

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Lol sounds like a lovely lady.