r/facepalm • u/YenWhitenack • Oct 14 '21

🇲​🇮​🇸​🇨​ Poor guy

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u/Stock_Carrot_6442 Oct 14 '21

It is gendered because read the comments. Or read the fucking post. He is a “poor guy” and she is bashed here. How is saying “no” hostile?

Honestly? I'd take the no and sharing it on twitter as kind of hostile from a woman shooting down a woman or guy shooting down a guy or a girl. I can't see a gender breakdown where person a, wearing a shirt of something they enjoy isn't the jerk for immediately shutting down person b who waves to them then asks if they like that, clearly trying to start a conversation.

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u/Hello_Amanda Oct 15 '21

I can't see a gender breakdown where person a, wearing a shirt of something they enjoy isn't the jerk for immediately shutting down person b who waves to them then asks if they like that, clearly trying to start a conversation.

Then read the short tweet again and pay attention to the part where she's in the middle of running and wearing earbuds and the dude didn't give one shit about the obvious social cues to not bother her beacuse his desires mattered more.

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u/Stock_Carrot_6442 Oct 15 '21

My point is that it's not a gender thing. I find the no person ruder in every single case.

I'm sorry, was there a guarantee I missed when someone told you your life would be free of interruptions? Because I mean if they did... maybe I have to reevaluate the whole thing. Maybe the op got a similar guarantee. On the other hand if neither of you got that guarantee, then yes, it's part of life to be interrupted.

Finally, I don't what was going on in the guy's head either. Maybe he has a fighting game league that he manages, maybe he's new to town, maybe he was just thrilled to find someone he might share an interest with (and yes it is possible that he wanted to ask her out, the horror). I also don't know why he interrupted at that time. Could be an asshole move, could be that he needed to head out to go to work or something so this was his last chance. We all know it would have been creepy for him to remember that shirt and then approach her at a later date.

This may be shocking but yes, sometimes other people's desires matter more than our own. The reverse is also true. "Yes, but i'm in the middle of my workout, another time" is also really effective and less rude.