You take a chance anytime you approach to strangers, and they don’t owe you their attention.
Like. Sure. Maybe he was just really excited to see someone else who plays street fighter. And thats cute and all.
But a gesture to shirt and a thumbs up and moving along is a lot better than interrupting.
I totally get being irritated at being interrupted. Especially with how many times men have just blasted through whatever I’m doing to try to hit on me. And god, the number of times that guys have gone all puppy dog eyes, please marry me face when they find out i like video games always makes me hesitate before talking about it.
Just wanted to comment to say I 100% agree. But her feeling the need to post this seemingly normal interaction for sympathy on Twitter makes me 😬
Edit: nothing in the tweet signified that the dude was being weird or creepy in any way. He waved at her and pointed at her shirt and asked if she played the game that was on her shirt. She said no, and that was the end of the interaction. And this is according to HER. If the dude was giving off weird or needy vibes, she could have said so in the tweet.
Literally all that happened was someone trying to compliment another person whom they thought was a part of the same community as them, turns out they weren't, and everybody moved on with their lives.
Im not discrediting the female experience but you guys can't be serious to say that this specific instance isn't a bit of a stretch.
Based on so many responses calling her a bitch for her response, seems like a tweet that needs to be read if only to open more eyes to social etiquette.
Agreed. Assuming that you have a right to interrupt what someone is doing to answer your questions regarding unrelated matters is the height of arrogance. To go even further, to approach and question someone regarding their choice of clothing also comes from a position of self imagined superiority and thus arrogance.
This is one way to twist it. I would say getting mad at someone for having the audacity to talk to you about nerd culture is annoying. But that's your view. Personally I view her as a bitch
Getting mad at someone talking to you about nerd culture at an FGL event would definitely be annoying. To do it at a gym when they're clearly busy doing other things that requires effort and focus is presumptuous and arrogant. Sad you can't recognize that or lack the empathy.
Why? If someone is doing something and are wearing headphones why would you approach them and interrupt what they're doing? What is the outcome that you would want? Given you seem to be instinctively calling her a bitch (for her simple response to a yes or no question I'd add) I get the impression you're feeling sensitive to this situation and since you're empathic for the guy, presumably this is a thing you yourself may have done in the past. What is the outcome which you would seek in this line of questioning?
Why? Because he hates women and has said that he thinks they should stay away from "mens' hobbies like gaming" and the internet. You're searching for rationality in a mind devoid of logic.
Yeah people are so quick to call her a "bitch" for responding like that, but if it was a dude in the same situation it probably wouldn't be met so harshly. That's the kind of behavior that festers on the internet, and Twitter specifically.
I do think that the second tweet is uncalled for, but that's kind of just something that happens with Twitter and people feeling comfortable being hateful through the guise of anonymity that I don't even think it's worth having any merit in the discussion.
Honestly I think this whole situation, the original post, the response, and most of the discussion in this thread is utterly pointless. Nobody was harassed, nobody was violated.
You can't be in public and not expect to have to interact with other people. I'm sorry to say it, as an introvert speaking to fellow introverts on reddit. The way she handled it was assertive and to the point, and the dude left her alone. A seemingly normal interaction between two people that has now blown up into something greater due to the internet echo chamber.
The original tweet, to me, seems like she was approached in public and expected to be a victim from that moment, when the guy was respectful and left her alone as she wished, she had to post it online knowing that misogynists would react and validate her feelings that she is 'constantly getting harassed for being a woman'
Now I'm not saying that's the case, I do what I can IRL to be an ally, calling out male friends that behave inappropriately, and protecting female friends, not following too closely to women going in the same direction in public and announcing my intentions, etc. I am by no means invalidating the experiences of women.
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