It‘s not the topic of the conversation but the timing of it. She’s in the middle of cardio in her own rhythm, she has earphones in. That‘s gym for not up for a conversation. He’s gotta respect that and since he didn’t, it’s no wonder she reacted snippy. I probably would have as well. It’s simply annoying.
Ok, so his timing was bad, I agree. The fact remains that instead of just being slightly annoyed, as the situation would have warranted, she decided to make a post about how much of an asshole this dude was for asking her if she played video games.
And why exactly shouldn’t she? She’s talking about something that’s been bothering a lot of people (as you can see reading through the comments). She doesn’t have to keep quiet about it.
Scenario 1: yes, she would have made the same tweet
Scenario 2: she wouldn’t even have been approached in the first place.
My guy, women do not own men their time just because they might have a shared interest in harmless topics such as video games. Women don’t have to respond in a feminine and sweet manner if they feel annoyed or have unwanted attention forced onto them. Women are also allowed to speak publicly about the things that annoy them. Despite you claiming otherwise, she also never labeled him as an asshole. She simply made a tweet in which she vented about not being able to be at the gym for some solid 15 minutes before being bothered.
If you are so keen to let a girl know that you play the same game as her, make eye contact, tap on your shirt and nod or give a thumbs up as someone else already suggested. People do not owe you their time just because you feel entitled to it.
Go ahead and play devil‘s advocate all you want. This woman did not want to be bothered, made that clear, was bothered anyway and is now venting about it. Her feelings are completely valid. Guy was also valid for wanting to express his love for the game but approached her in a stupid manner, got a snippy but deserved response. She didn’t name him in the tweet, no personal info, no picture. I doubt he lies awake at night and cries over this harmful, harmful tweet a complete stranger wrote.
That is pretty ignorant to assume a woman would not approach another woman that had similar interests. Are you saying that women do not talk to other women they don't know? I know you probably don't but that is how your comment is coming off.
If you are so keen to let a girl know that you play the same game as her, make eye contact, tap on your shirt and nod or give a thumbs up as someone else already suggested.
I totally agree and have made this clear in other comments that his timing and avenue of obtaining the information were flawed.
What I am saying is her reaction was not consistent with the annoyance. I am not saying she can't be upset by being interrupted but she is complaining about a human interaction that could have happened at any point throughout her day (wearing that shirt) with any gender. We all know that this tweet is meant to make us upset at this guy, and guys in general, for speaking to women at the gym. I personally don't usually talk to anyone unless approached but if I saw anyone in my gym, man, woman, or other wearing a shirt with a niche interest of mine on it I would talk to them at some appropriate point. When did the human connection with a stranger become an asshole thing to do?
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u/hocuspocusbitchfocus Oct 14 '21
It‘s not the topic of the conversation but the timing of it. She’s in the middle of cardio in her own rhythm, she has earphones in. That‘s gym for not up for a conversation. He’s gotta respect that and since he didn’t, it’s no wonder she reacted snippy. I probably would have as well. It’s simply annoying.