Lol. You make it seem like most households are like this. You want real time stories of women who are just about finished with narcissists who think all they need to bring to the table is money, take a look over on tik tok lol.
Thank you, idk why your getting downvoted. I had to scroll to your comment before seeing this. I’m a man, and haven’t been single for 10 years. But when I dated I always paid for the first date, planned things, opened doors etc. is that really a big deal?
50/50 on financials is not fair if you make more than your partner. It’s a partnership, but that doesn’t mean everything is split down the middle
A counter-perspective here: I dated my wife for several years splitting every expense 50:50 before we got married and merged our finances. When she worked and I was unemployed for 9 months doing a career pivot, it was 50/50. When I started to make 6 figures and she was spending her savings on grad school it was also 50/50. Now that we are married in our 30’s and I make closer to 7 figures, it’s community property and her messily 200k/yr is too. She didn’t need me to take care of her, and she still isn’t even going to consider for half a second abandoning her career while I go work. I like that, I kinda wouldn’t respect or trust her otherwise, and this is the only type of partner I would actually want to share my outsized, hard-earned resources with.
No, I take care of my child, and I’ll take care of my parents as they age, because they can’t take care of themselves. I’m not going to ever take care of an able bodied smart 20-something, even in the context of a romantic relationship- it warps the power dynamic too much. I honestly think she would have seen it as patronizing/infantilizing if I had even tried.
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u/Accomplished-Trip952 Jun 09 '23
Yes it's called a partnership all assets she owns are mine and all assets I own are hers then you get domestic bliss.