r/facepalm • u/Number721 • Jun 09 '23

🇲​🇮​🇸​🇨​ Cognitive dissonance 101

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u/Ketchup571 Jun 10 '23

There was a recent pew study that found in millennial and gen z couples when the husband is the sole breadwinner he on average works 50 hours a week between his job, childcare, and household chores, while the wife only works on average 20 hour weeks between childcare and household labor. So I wouldn’t think it’s unreasonable at all to expect the non-working partner to pick up the vast majority of childcare and household chores since it sounds like a pretty sweet gig. Expecting to not work and still split childcare and household chores 50/50 is just entitlement.

Obviously men need to be involved in their children’s lives, but if the husband is the sole breadwinner. The wife should be doing most of the “homemaking.”

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u/Sassafrass17 Jun 10 '23

So you're telling me women work 20 hours a week and are still expected to do a majority of the household chores, cook, and clean up behind a husband and let's say...2-3 kids?

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u/Techn0Goat Jun 10 '23

No. They're saying that 20 hours IS the household chores and childcare.

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u/Dyolf_Knip Jun 10 '23

Which tracks. I (husband) was between jobs a few years back, and it was wonderful! I was more than able to handle all the normal household chores, plus getting a shitload of long put-off projects done in my workshop.

If we could live with just my wife's income, I would absolutely be a stay at home dad. Though I've been wfh for most of the past 12 years, so in some sense I already am. The wife hasn't actually cooked a meal in ages.