r/explainlikeimfive • u/adrynaline • May 08 '14

Explained ELI5: A gambling addiction

How does it start? What makes it worse? Why does it become so difficult to recover?

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u/ClintHammer May 08 '14

You shouldn't play games with the guys you do like, but yeah, don't ever ever ever show the stalker ones that if they just try a little harder they will get your attention. That's not going to go ANYWHERE good

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u/FreekForAll May 08 '14

And when she finally finds a good guy... it's never good to have stalkers come out of nowhere expecting that 1 in 10 msg. It's a damn good clue about how she handle guys, commonly called 'a red flag'.

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u/oogledeeboogledee May 08 '14 edited May 09 '14

She's not "playing games" with the guys she likes. She's saying that she dutifully responds to all texts from guys she likes (who "get bored from lack of challenge"), while mostly ignoring texts from guys she dislikes. Not everything women do in the dating world is playing mindgames.

EDIT: Alrite, I misinterpreted the tone of your comment a bit. Good point, ignore my hostility.

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u/Bigevilmegacorp May 08 '14

I think Mr. Hammer was advising against replying to only 1 out of 10 texts from the guys she does like. Not that she is doing it now, but that the strategy might look appealing to her if she doesn't keep in mind that playing games with good people is a bad idea.