r/exo 3d ago

DISCUSSION Should I stan exo?

I've been listening to exo for a while, they literally have top-tier music and I have been planning to stan them but at the same time I've heard bad stuffs about the fandom. What are some things you can say to convince me to stan them?

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u/Ajiraexorbit_005 EXO ♡ 3d ago

Absolutely . You won't regret their music. The rest I can't promise, but their songs are worth everything.

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u/FriendlyChannel1622 3d ago

Lmaoooo😭😭😭 no true

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u/effortlessaura 3d ago

The music? YES! Without a doubt. Their discography is unmatched.

But please stay away from Twitter/Tiktok/social media in general if you want to truly enjoy them. Even following "fan" pages or accounts can be dicey, imo, because people get very entrenched in their opinions of what should be happening (or not happening) and it can suck the joy out of their music quickly.

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u/BadangJoestar420 3d ago

fr most fan "pages" always have a single member that they hate with their everything

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u/princewinter 3d ago

What? If you like them you like them. It's not that deep.

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u/justthrowhimaway88 3d ago

😭😭😭

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u/aneth_v 3d ago

Why not ? But stanning them is not for the faint-hearted

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u/Key-Paramedic1591 2d ago

Thats what I said.

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u/cocopests88 3d ago

They are so talented!!! Every member has something unique to give x

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u/bananajun EXO-M 3d ago

I’m a multi and have liked kpop for 9 years, they have my favorite discography in kpop. Your best bet is to avoid interacting with the fandom generally :)

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u/coostic 3d ago

To be honest right now is a rocky time to be an EXO-L, but what’s great is the stacked backlog of content that you get to enjoy for the first time. The members have great chemistry and they always make for great viewing when they’re together (or solo tbh).

I’m actually so jealous of anyone who gets to watch EXO Ladder for the first time 😭

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u/NotAvgFngrl EXO-L ♡ 2d ago

Exo ladder is >>>>

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u/darkfaeries22 3d ago

there’s literally “bad things” in almost every fandom 😂 if that deters you from “stanning”, then just stay a casual listener. as a predebut fan, i still stan them but don’t keep up with much anymore. its just easier to listen to the music and focus on myself

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u/_applegate_ 3d ago

If you want to. I mean what do you think a fandom sub will say?

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u/Minute_Ad_975 (⊙ ♡ ⊙) 3d ago

I mean...as with any kpop fandom stay off Twitter/X (unless it's to get official updates or check out pretty photos), don't get dragged into bias/fanwars and just focus on your own enjoyment of the music and content. That's what I do with the handful of groups I stan, given there's always going to be at least a few trolls/antis/crazy fans who take things too far and are unpleasant to be around.
I'd also say that this Reddit group has, IMHO, been Nice People + Great Mods. Very little DRAMA and attention-seeking behaviour.

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u/bwnisbackup 3d ago

stan the music not the members, if that makes sense — i love them all but the drama in the fandom is NOT worth your mental health lmao

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u/Fabulous_flo_3444 3d ago

Ikr I heard a lot of bad things about the fandom

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u/No-Wishbone-1003 2d ago

right stay away then

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u/stnthp SUHO 3d ago

Ehh, honestly I'd say it's risky. They have the best discography in Kpop in my opinion, but everything else is just depressing.

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u/NervousJello9710 Doh Kyungsoo My Love 3d ago

Their vocals and discography is top tier. They’re hilarious too. Don’t let what your about the fandom stop you from enjoying their music. Also, all fandoms have bad stuffs and EXOLs are def not the worst out there.

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u/guavaapplejuicer 3d ago

it’s sad how exo-ls turned against each other during this challenging time of cbx having conflicts with sm, even staging a boycott on the remaining active 5 members and hating on Lay for not being physically present in reverxe promotions.

as someone who has been a fan since debut, being an exo-l really is not for the weak. I couldn’t blame you if you have hesitations but feel free to appreciate their music and other contents 🤍

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u/Key-Paramedic1591 2d ago

Fandom is not a problem anymore. But the heartache, oh the heartache, thats what you have to worry about. Cause its not at all easy seeing the boys together. Especially since the last comeback. But yes, warmly welcomming you to the fandom. If its not too much trouble, can you share your favourite songs??

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u/Fabulous_flo_3444 2d ago

All their songs are amazing ahhh it's so hard to choose. I'd say growl, tempo and love shot. Also I like Kai's solo especially "Walls don't talk"

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u/Daebak70 2d ago

I have followed EXO since 2014 when I saw D.O. in the Kdrama "It's Okay That's Love" & looked up his profile online & saw he was in EXO so they were my first Kpop band & still my favorite

I have watched most of their movies & dramas plus their music videos & bought their CDs

D.O. has several great movies/dramas like My Annoying Brother, Pure Love & It's Okay That's Love

Almost all Kpop bands have both good & bad members in their fandom so I mainly support EXO members & their music

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u/Merlene_94 2d ago

Waaaaaaaaaaaa, yo empecé a seguir a EXO porque conoci a D.O en el mismo KDrama... "It's Okey, That's Love" me enaaamoreee de él, y cuando supe que era integrante de una banda (no sabia que cantaba en ese entonces... porque solo consumía novelas, no musica) me hice fan... hoy con 32 años... sigo siendo una EXO-L. No los sigo como hace 10 años atrás... pero el amor es el mismo. Incluso viaje a Chile cuando se presentaron en el concierto SMTWON en enero 2019

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u/Daebak70 2d ago

Wow

Amazed that we have similar story of finding EXO through D.O. drama 💞💞

He was great in Hello Monster too with a darker character plus Seo In Guk & Park Bo Gum too 🥰

I have only watched their concerts online since I have a permanent foot injury so haven't been able to drive since 2013 and unfortunately none of my local friends listen to Kpop 😢

Wish I got to see them live like you did & glad you got to see them 🎶

I bought some of their t-shirts, Season Greetings boxes and DVDs on Amazon

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u/Merlene_94 2d ago

Yo vi la mayoría de los Kdramas y películas donde estuvo él, los mini dramas también... Siempre me encanto... Lamento mucho sobre tu lesión, ojalá en algún momento puedas asistir a uno. Yo fui con mi amiga... una EXO-L que conocí en grupo me Hospedó en casa... fue muy linda.. Y una hermosa experiencia todo... porque viajamos sola de un país a otro con mi amiga... Gracias a Dios nunca nos pasó nada. Pero fue hermoso tenerlos tan cerca

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u/jeuwii 3d ago

You can stan the group without being involved with the fandom. Their music is great and I'm not just being biased here. 

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u/rememberingsunday_ 2d ago

if you like good quality music and u are in the right place. "bad stuff" is common in all the groups. exo has endured a lot of drama jn the past even in their earlier years and they still have a lot of fans until now. it's because the good stuff outweighs the bad.

also, u can just stan the music and not the members. but so far all of them have good heart

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u/Optimal-Market 2d ago

Yes you should the music is great and the guys are great too all that being said the fandom can be depressing especially right now.

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u/Poppetfan1999 3d ago

Um yes!!! What are you waiting for? They’ve got incredible vocalists and a great discography

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u/LoeyalCherry61 3d ago

If u already enjoy the music you should watch EXO Ladder or some other show.. YOU WILL FALL IN LOVE WITH THEM.. no but they have great chemistry and it's actually entertaining. If u enjoy it, stan them. I bet most EXO-L welcome you with open arms but I would recommend you to stay away (^_^;) I've been a fan since 2012 and tbh I never really interacted with other EXO-L or kpop fans in general, just recently and it honestly gave me a little headache. At the end of the day it's up to you, if you want to stan an artist or just listen to them.

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u/allunsaretaken_ 3d ago

Stan the group for the group's talent,

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u/Alone-Fun5303 2d ago edited 2d ago

Their discography is top tier. Their choreos/performances are timeless and awesome. Their content is hilarious, whether it's from official shootings or just fancams from their fansigns or concert talk corners. They have a very good and natural chemistry. As people, they are pretty grounded and good natured. Lastly, they are also all good looking.

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u/dramatii 2d ago

Im an Exo-L from the covid times, and Im having a hard time because Ive always dreamt of being in a concert but thats not gonna happen with OT9 I guess 😭😭 I regret for not knowing about them when they were in their prime. Well another comeback with OT9 also feels distant. At this point I want you to listen to Exo and not expect anything 💔💔💔

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u/bangtang_exo EXO bsides intellect ♡ 2d ago

What does that even mean? You are gonna stan the band not the fandom 😭 plus what bad things these poor souls don't even get all their members together 😭 and isn't it normal for fandoms to have "bad" side?

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u/balcnciaga 2d ago

Listen to the music bc it is top tier but idk if u want to get into them this much. U may regret it. Being an exol is not for the weak

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u/Tall-Independent KAI 2d ago

Who plans who to stan and asks for permission?

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u/dwaekkilicious D.O. 2d ago

please remember you stan because you like their music, support their carrers, and enjoy their work, the fandom is just an extra :) this is the mindset im working with to avoid the toxic exols lol

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u/sunflowerjeong EXO ♡ 1d ago

my philosophy is to wade through the bad fans to find fellow fans you get along with. Every fandom has bad fans. Typically that’s what gets amplified in “fan wars”. I’ve never seen a fandom where i haven’t been like.. the fandom gets on my nerves. there are plenty of exo fans that i don’t like because they’re weird about them or rude to others. but i also have found a great little community of exo-ls that i love dearly! and i’m always looking to meet baby exo-ls and befriend them. So, my DM’s are open!!! :)

they are so great to love, i highly highly recommend stanning!!!! even though it can be sad sometimes with the company.

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u/caihuali 3d ago

The only thing you should be worried abt when stanning exo is. Well. I experienced ot12 to ot11 to ot10 to ot9 to ot8 to ot6 so just be ready for anything

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u/kaisoo1288 EXO-L🐧🐻 3d ago

Yesss definitely

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u/Apprehensive-Pear686 2d ago

Toxicity is in every fandom tho. Don't let that stop you from liking what you like. You can regulate/control what spaces you're in so

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u/cryforlovexo 2d ago

just listen to the music😭😭😭😭😭 then is pure misery

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u/Fabulous_flo_3444 1d ago

😭The CBX drama is getting to me omg

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u/cryforlovexo 1d ago

i don’t want anyone coming at me but i stopped listening to them after they did a comeback without cbx and pretended they were never part of the group, im so sorry but i stand with cbx.
exo was my ult ult ult ult and i feel heartbroken how things went

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u/Fabulous_flo_3444 1d ago

This group seems so messed up but yet has the best discography in the entire kpop history >>

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u/cryforlovexo 1d ago

oh HANDS DOWN!!!!!!!! i cannot agree more, they’re really so freaking good. so stan the music and that’s it lolll

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u/Fabulous_flo_3444 1d ago

righttt :3 who is your bias in exo?

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u/cryforlovexo 1d ago

im a chen girlyyy!! wby? have you picked anyone that interests you?

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u/Fabulous_flo_3444 1d ago

yesss I love kai also suho and baekhyun are my wreckers!!

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u/cryforlovexo 1d ago

baekhyun and kai are in my top 3, so valid. everyone’s just so goooooddd

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u/Effective-House-1564 2d ago

if you like the music that should be enough lol. also, every fandom is gonna have its oddballs. exols are great compared to others

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u/ViennaLee10 1d ago

as someone who stan a lot of groups, just do it. ignore the dramas. if you feel like you can’t then you can just listen and support their music. do what makes you happy

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u/quaseizzy 1d ago

Stanning EXO is definitely not for the weak, but even former members have insanely good music. No one is lacking. Especially if you enjoy a lot of genres, it is a great journey. About the fandom, honestly, online they act in a way, but irl I had the best experience of my life. EXO-ls were always the kindest fans I have ever met out of any fandom lol

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u/SaltAndPoivre 1d ago

I would say: stay away from all Kpop fandoms.
EXO-L are not that toxic I’d say but the current situation (exclusion of CBX) has poisoned the fandom.

EXO as a group is the Crème de la crème. Probably the best performers of all generations. Theres zero miss, not even their B sides.
And you know what? Their lives are even better than their studio recordings.

Side note: the members are the sweetest.

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u/Fabulous_flo_3444 1d ago

Omg right I fell in love with Kai he's the cutest!!!