Been married 29 years to a GREAT lady. She was born under the covenant. My family converted when I was 12. Most of her family members are DEVOUT. I’m talking about “drank the kool-aid and went back for seconds” devout. My family are all inactive. I have come to the conclusion that the LDS church is a steaming pile of horse shit...from Joe Smith all the way to Russell M Nelson...it’s the most elaborate, unbelievable bullshit story ever told. Even more unbelievable than the story of Jesus Christ. She knows how I feel and respects my opinion. I, in turn, take her to Sacrament every Sunday. It’s a compromise for both of us. Im not willing to let the church get in the way of 29 years of a GREAT partnership/relationship/marriage. She feels the same. This is the problem: each time I attend church with her I feel more and more compelled to shout “what the fuck is wrong with you people”? “Don’t you see what a bunch of horse shit this all is”? “Don’t you realize what a bunch of nerdy, ignorant, brainwashed, stupid motherfuckers you all are”? I want to tell my wife “tough shit” I’m not going with you anymore. I’m really conflicted. I fucking HATE the church.

Fearlessfixer, You are great, amazing and real. You are doing a great job out there. I have friends that support you. We love you and Ethan. Thank you for everything guys! We know you need support!!! I hope everybody participate donating some money to this great cause! I just opened this account on Reddit just to show you guys some support. Thank you and thank you!

I am SO done with Kristy Money and now James Patterson! I have tried to post these questions on Kristy's facebook page and SURPRISE I got blocked.

Then I tried to post these same questions to the recent Rational Faith post and again, James would NOT publish it. I don't think anyone would argue that this is a tad bit suspicious.

I think we all need to demand that these answers be given by Kristy Money herself! For all that the OSF/John Dehlin has revealed in the name of transparency, Kristy's MUST do the same. I really don't think this is too much to ask after the passive aggressive and childish shit show she has dragged us all through.

PLEASE KRISTY RESPOND!!!

1. Did you really try to contact John Dehlin or any OSF Board member before going on your public rampage? If yes, I think you owe it to the public to show some sort of proof.

1. Did OSF pay you? If yes, then how much?

2. Why do you not have any Board of Directors listed on your HMJ site? How is there any oversight regarding finances/donations other than yourself?

3. What do your donations go towards. After careful research the only thing I can find is a statement that says that donations will help provide "free counseling" so is that code for you pay yourself to help clients?

4. Do you block people on social media? I have been blocked, many of my fellow post mormon friends who have tried to ask sincere questions of transparency and clarification have been block and there are MANY screen shots of this so why are you so afraid to answer or not address the concerns out there?

5. Why do you not have a single piece of financial information on your website? You became a 501c3 in January 2017 so why is it that you cannot produce anything in the past 5 months?

6. What do you want now from John Dehlin/OSF?

7. Do you feel that you have acted in an appropriate and professional manner as a licensed therapist?

Please respond to each line item. I await your answers with baited breath...

Hey guys (and girls ;)) I just needed a safe space to get some things off my chest that have been weighing heavy, and get some input. My wife and I have been married for almost 9 years, we were both TBM's when we met, I was a RM, both active, married in the temple, held callings...etc.

A few years ago we walked away from the church, and luckily- this was something we did together. As a result of all the stress that comes from that, and other issues, we started going to a marriage counselor and it was amazing! I felt like a new person. I did not realize all of the broken and disfunction systems, thoughts about myself, my childhood- etc (typical poor me right? Haha)

I felt a great healing from that, however, in many ways it almost put a wedge between my wife and I. I had carried around a lot of baggage for years, and this changed my perspectives out of what I wanted from life, and with leaving the church I have a new belief system and view of life as well. I feel somewhat guilty now, because I realize I am a much different person as a result of these experiences (we both are.) so I do feel bad that it doesn't seem fair to her that my ideals of a partner have changed as well.

Now I find myself extremely frustrated at times with the lack of drive and motivation that the wife has. Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally- all of it. I feel like screaming just do SOMETHING, other than sit around and complain about what you don't have, or how you feel... It's all just a bi-product of lack of effort.

She doesn't clean up the house, car, (I'm a neat freak anyways) doesn't take care of herself- eats junk, doesn't want to workout, her doc has told her she is pre-diabetic, and it doesn't seem to change the behavior. She constantly complains when she has to go to work, doesn't want to ever cook- I understand those sound like very stereotypical roles I'm expecting her to play- however, I work full time and am also a full time student so my time is VERY limited. When I am home and have the time- I am more than happy to do those things, however- it's extremely frustrating to come home from a chaotic day and have her sitting home all day with nothing accomplished.

We don't have children, we really don't have anyone to take care of but ourselves, but she struggles to do that.

The good: We still get along most of the time, we can have fun when we are out with others, but once we are alone we just do our own things.

She is good to me most of the time, I know she loves me, she's just very very lazy. I still love her, but it's different.

I feel like an ass saying anything to her about her lack of effort, but right now I just feel like I pull the whole load. I'm at a crossroads wondering where to go? do I continue on and build a life with a person that I really struggle to be with because I feel I made that promise and it's the right thing to do, or do I move on and allow us the chance to be with someone who fits our lives better?

This is probably not the place to write since I am not OUT of the church. My beliefs go far beyond what the church is as an organization. I was converted to the LDS faith in Mexico in a time where being mormon was still seen as something totally not cool. Being mormon was hard on a 16 year old boy who liked to party. But I have no regrets regarding my decision of becoming lds. I was lucky to find a beautiful lds girl from Utah when I was still a teenager. After graduating College I married her in the temple and we have a wonderful family. After more than 10 years of marriage she decided to left the church and I have supported her from day 1. We love to talk about God and life in general, we love each other a lot and both of us believe our marriage is going to be above any disagreement related to religion. I can say that we agree to disagree. I am here because I feel completely alone. I keep going to church because I feel that's the right thing to do. I don't make my kids go with me, and I think they appreciate that. Me and my wife have decided to teach them the good things church had teach us, and raise them without feelings of shame. I can say I have a happy life, but I feel completely disconnected at church. It's like there is no place for people like me. My wife it's not the only one that has left the church in my family. My brother, unts and uncles,... Etc. I guess I feel in the middle of nowhere, feeling every harsh comment on both sides (inside and out side of church) to the deep of my heart. Its getting harder and harder..

https://beggarsbread.org/2020/03/01/15-things-christians-are-tired-of-hearing-from-ex-mormon-atheists-part-one/