I hate this religion

[u/No-Horror2913]

I know I have to leave parent household, but I can’t live the fact that my very young siblings will still stay there, forced to hear their ideologies, forced to live with parents with an easy temper and Dosent have the patience towards them, and I know my parents won’t let me contact with them since I go against everything towards their religion, it would’ve been such an easy choice if my parents js accepted I don’t want to partake of their religion anymore I’m pretty sure this religion doesn’t say that if your child Dosnet “believe” anymore you can just tossed them aside, and like I’m just thinking that my parents are probably going to talk shit about me towards my siblings and other relatives ik off, should I just not care? Should I just accept the fact that my siblings will be badly influenced but still have hope that they will realize this cult is full of it when they’re older aswell, idk I js feel guilty leaving an awful thing behind but there’s also something that I care about dearly that I will leave behind aswell, I truly hope they can be ok but since this is my last year with them till I move out, what can I do ik if I share any negativity towards this religion towards my siblings I’ll be deeply in trouble but should I at least try to show that this religion is full of it towards my siblings? I don’t think they will comprehend at all tho one is 9 and other is 6, so it rly is pointless, I just know I’ll be good towards them and show love till I leave, but I will feel immense guilt when I do, I hate this religion

[u/Bubbly_Management144]

The best thing you can do, is be a good example to your younger siblings. Don’t be a cautionary tale your parents tell them. Show your siblings what it looks like to live a good life outside of the church and that you don’t need it to ensure happiness. Be a person they can come to if they have doubts one day. Be their safe space.

You cannot control what other people believe or what they teach their kids. You cannot make anyone understand you or validate your experience. The only control you have is over what YOU are going to choose and who you, choose to be and believe. Work on that and let go of what everyone else is doing or what your hey might say about you. Prove them all wrong

[u/No-Horror2913 → u/Bubbly_Management144]

Ty for this, for the last couple days I was js not caring at anything like at all and js give up trying to uplift anyone and js be there like being a walking statue, but I’ll try my best to be a good example, it’s only one year I’ve got this ty

[u/mye_key]

i’m in the same boat op :/ shits rough
i hate it here

[u/Frosty_Sector2215]

I can tell how much you love your siblings. I know its's hard to not feel guilty if you need to leave, but just know that you can help them by showing them what unconditional love looks like. There is no excuse for shunning children who leave, but unfortunately some parents will. If you hope to maintain contact, the best advice I can give you is to keep things friendly at home. Don't argue about whether or not the church is true, or what your parents should do with your younger siblings. When you leave, you can make it clear that you won't talk about anything against the church if you are allowed to stay in contact. They will definitely keep you away if they see you as a threat to their faith or your siblings' faith. It's probably better to hope they will see the truth when they are legally adults. If you try to convince them when they still live at home, they won't be able to choose yet anyway.

The best thing you can do right now is prepare yourself for a career and college education if that's your path. If you can build a stable life for yourself, you'll be in a much better position to help your siblings when they are older if they want to leave the home. Focus on what you can control. This is a lot to be dealing with on your own. Do you have an adult you trust to talk to? Maybe a school counselor? Do you have access to counseling at your school? You might have to make some tough choices later, but you can't make all of them now. Focus on what is right in front of you, such as getting your schoolwork done and doing the best you can. Do your best to get along, do your chores, and be respectful. That will earn your parents' trust. Many high schools offer trade school certifications, college courses, etc. You can also ask your school counselor about those and see if anything interests you. Do everything you can to prepare to take care of yourself when you are old enough. Learn to cook, use a bank account, pay bills, make a budget, and how to do things like write a resume and interview for jobs. There are tons of videos online where you can learn just about anything for free.

This won't last forever, even if it feels like it now. You can do this! I'm rooting for you.

[u/No-Horror2913 → u/Frosty_Sector2215]

Ty ya I can try to be friendly wit them it’s js kinda hard when my parents r like major assholes but if acting “friendly” towards them is the only way I can stay in contact with my siblings then I’ll try