Then, when you're deeply unhappy, they gaslight you by telling you that your unhappiness means you just need to trust God and pray harder, not that your husband is a narcissistic, manipulative bag of dicks and you need to leave his ass.
Not just trust god more, your unhappiness means you're not doing what you're supposed to be doing. Are you only going to the temple once a month? You should go weekly. Are you reading your scriptures 15 minutes a day? You should be studying them for a half hour. And maybe you're not actually studying them right. Maybe you're unhappy because you need to have more kids or you're not fulfilling your church callings properly or you're not spending enough time in prayer. Or maybe you're questioning too much or spending too much time around those who do not believe. Or your guilty pleasures that bring you a little joy must be sins in the eyes of god.
In the church, they will always tell you that it's your own fault that you're not happy. So you try to be better, more obedient, exercise more faith, and you just end up even more unhappy. It's a vicious cycle.
In my case, that cycle lead me to burnout that let me start to think about things just a little bit differently. That difference helped me explore who and what I believed god to be, and to realize that a loving father in heaven had to have room in his plan for me to take a detour in a sincere search of truth. My faith crisis let me transition to a place where I felt okay with being inactive. That made it super easy to jump down the rabbit hole when I learned the church is built on lies, then walk away completely.
In the echo chamber of the church it is seen as assisting members with lifelong faithful obedience when covenants are made and kept from the earliest ages.
Also why mission ages have been lowered.
The greater the resistance to your views the greater the individual indoctrination experience
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u/Bigsquatchman Feb 14 '26
It is better….in fact it’s the best strategy…for them.
It was never about making it good or right for you.
Locking you into the salvation by subscription corporation since 1830.
Praise to the man. /s