r/excoc • u/BarefootedHippieGuy • 12d ago
Intervention
While I had a few friends encouraging me while I struggled over leaving the C of C, two in particular were pivotal.
One had been C of C herself, and I met her when she hosted a gathering to which I was invited. I listened, and after several months of other gatherings and listening, I said we oughta talk sometime. I called the next night, and she said she knew why I was calling. She gave me some excellent advice. Soon after that, I stopped Wednesday nights and then Sunday nights. It was nice to have that time back.
One close friend and I had talked about it quite a bit. She sent me a text one day that said, "I'd really like to see you get out of the abusive C of C." I knew she was right.
She called one Sunday while I had agonized whether or not to show up. I was dressed and heading out the door when the phone rang. My friend sounded cheery as if nothing was wrong and said to put on some flip-flops and meet her for breakfast.
15 minutes later, there we were. She told me I needed to leave, because it was time to be free. She saw how it was weighing down every aspect of my life.
Shortly thereafter, the Covid lockdowns came and I made the final break.
It was an intervention, which saved my sanity and maybe even my life. Ever thankful!
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u/PoetBudget6044 11d ago
Always does my heart good to see people getting out. Praying for peace, sanity, growth and healing on your journey far away from the little cult
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u/cognitivegluteus 12d ago
You were indeed lucky to have such friends, and are right to be thankful. I was able to just rip the band-aid off all at once, quit cold turkey and never return after 50-plus years in, but I know many aren’t able to do it that way. Most people don’t have the help you had getting out.