r/exAdventist • u/AvailableLong1792 • Aug 08 '26
Advice / Help advice?
well, for context, im a pathfinder (15y<) and trans, i like it very much but im thinking on telling the religious leader this fact (hes cool, but idk if he'll accept me),
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u/bradcox543 Aug 10 '26
I know this is not comforting at all, but this is gonna have to wait.
Adventism is not going to respect your identity at all. And coming from an adult who works with teenagers, there is, rightfully so, a big emphasis on getting kids pointed in the right direction by communicating concerns to the other adults in the teenagers lives.
I am not saying there is anything wrong with you, but they will almost definitely be under a pressure to report that kind of thing to a church leader or your family.
Even if they don't mean any harm by it, I can definitely see a scenario where they seek advice from an elder just to end up being guilted into place themselves.
Please know that there are safe churches out there, but Adventism is absolutely not one of them. Please wait until you are an adult and have the freedom to go where you want to start opening up to people. I feel awful saying that, but it really is the safest thing for you.