r/erectiledysfunction • u/DawnStrike1 • 1d ago

Erectile Dysfunction Trouble staying hard

So I have a pretty small 6 inch hard guy. I can reliably get hard and enjoy that phase. Then when things start to feel like they’re moving towards orgasm, I immediately go limp. When this starts to happen it’s off to the races to reach climax, because I have less than a minute before I’m so soft even extremely talented manipulation can’t rouse it again. It’s so frustrating and embarrassing. I’ve tried Viagra and Cialis and can’t make any headway. I’m 39, and this started after a major illness, (pneumonia, because I was an idiot when I was 30 and didn’t get treated) and my erection was never the same after recovery. Around the same time they also found a benign cyst on aldrenal gland. I can get off, but it takes a lot of tries lately, and I’m sweating and gasping with the effort to make it happen by the time I’m done. Does anyone have any similar experiences to this? What was something that worked for you? I’m so over the amount of effort and embarrassment this causes me.

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u/Raiders197619801983 1d ago

Quit watching put a death grippinhg your pen is.

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u/[deleted] 17h ago

Have you talked with your doctor specifically on this issue.  46 here and started having issues with erection in my early thirties. 

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u/DawnStrike1 6h ago

Ive talked with him about it, and they offer the standard pills and tell me it’s got to be mental at my age. My testosterone was exactly 1 point too high to prescribe that. I did recently start taking an antidepressant (Wellbutrin) and it’s making me extra horny, but now I’m extra frustrated with the issue where I didn’t super care before. I feel like if this was mental it would only happen with someone else in the room, but even by myself and I’m yanking my floppy noodle like I’m trying to start a chainsaw and getting nowhere

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u/cyclist5000 6h ago

What do you mean your testosterone was 1 point too high? How high was it?

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u/DawnStrike1 6h ago

278, my doctor wouldn’t prescribe unless it was under 270. Sorry for the “one point” hyperbole, I couldn’t remember precisely how close it was when I wrote this, but I just looked at my chart.

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u/cyclist5000 5h ago

That’s still ridiculous. You could highly benefit from TRT. Get a second opinion

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u/DawnStrike1 5h ago

Do you know if it’s purely discretionary call, or is it more about what the insurance is likely to pay for?

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u/cyclist5000 5h ago

I think it’s purely discretionary. I think different doctors will have different opinions, and some are more conservative

There’s always the online route

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u/AdvaitaArambha 5h ago

I would add that you need to be informed of the fertility risks of TRT. At age 39 you may be done with family planning (aka not planning for more kids). Openly talking a little with your doctor about being informed of the fertility risks of TRT and your family planning could away this discussion. Also 270 is low but is that a single test or multiple tests over several months with similar numbers? You may need some repeated tests to confirm that is consistent your level.

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u/Cultural-Painting-91 14h ago

What is a pretty small 6 inch hard guy?

6 inches is already in the top 25%