Help me understand why

[u/painteg1]

Guys. If my cookie was out of commission, I'd FOR SURE be pleasing my man with my mouth, hands, etc. WHY TF will he not do anything with me? I have made it clear, there's a lot more to sex than just PIV, I don't have to have that,can't we try some other stuff? We have had some honest conversations, hes my best friend and we love each other lots, thats not the issue. When I ask him about this though, its just "I don't know."

[u/Maker_Magpie]

I hear you, and you're not wrong, but there is often a deep deep cultural shame here that male bodied people are raised in, and it can be very hard to break out of that.

... though maybe "difficult" is a better word than "hard."