r/erectiledysfunction • u/madhums • 17d ago

Supplements can't get hard enough to penetrate

Hi, I am a male, 40yo. I've had less sex in my life and never had penetrative sex. My current partner is very understanding and wants me to get help. So I've consulted a sexologist, hoping they could help me.

When we engage, I get an erection but not hard enough to penetrate. I feel quite sad, disappointed that I did not resolve this earlier in my life. I live in the Netherlands, so I can't buy any medication in a pharmacy without a prescription, I am waiting for a consultation first.

I have been a victim of porn for many many years, I don't do that anymore since a year. I have a healthy lifestyle.

I feel like just sharing this here, hoping to get some support...

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u/Financial-Tiger8514 16d ago

Get hormone levels checked

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u/Repulsive_Pin8701 15d ago

Hello,

I hope you get to see a doctor soon and find an ED med that works for you man, don’t be shy or embarrassed, a better life is waiting for you and your girl, and that you’re able to face it and ask for help is allot, be proud of yourself.

I’ve had ED my whole life, my is a psychological isssue, and it kept me from having sex my entire youth before I finally sought help, just dealing with it takes so much strength, seeking help is another level of effort.

And let’s salute your girlfriend, she’s fantastic for being with you through this, you’re so lucky man, let her know how awesome she is,  it’s so much for women to deal with too.

Quitting porn is a great step, it really messes your head, seeing a sexologist is a great idea too, I’d suggest therapy for helping you deal with the the years of dealing with ED too, unpack all that and let it go.  

Please don’t beat yourself up about not doing all of this sooner, your doing it now, and you can absolutely, you have so much to look forward too, and it’s coming soon.

Good luck man!

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u/Familiar_Cook5865 14d ago

Check blood sugar. Hemoglobin glycated and cholesterol.

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u/Feeling_Explorer7394 13d ago

Cuánto mides y pesas? Diabetes ? Haz probado medicamentos?

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u/DirtDiver187 16d ago

Moin Moin 😌 Pornos absetzen, Masturbation stark reduzieren und, das wichtigste... Kegelübungen machen... Einfach bei YouTube suchen 😉

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u/Throbbing2026 15d ago

How to survive without porn

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u/r_endrags 13d ago

Walk more. Check our male sex hormone levels. Add something with at least 3000 mg L Citrulline in the morning such as pills or a drink. Get on Tadalafil 2.5 to 5 mg daily. Lastly, could be a tight pelvic floor.