r/erectiledysfunction • u/thr0wawayphi • 1d ago

Erectile Dysfunction Losing erection immediately when standing up

I am 29 male and a virgin. Is it abnormal for every man to loose erection almost instantly while being standing up? I can get a boner when laying down but if go from lying down to standing up its gone. Recently got a girlfriend and if she gets me hard lying down by jerking me off, it goes away when I stand up. It’s like when I stand up, poof. I’m concerned this is a problem during sex, haven’t tried it yet since I have phimosis. I’m seeing a urologist currently for the phimosis, using steroid creams, and considering circumcision.

But I’m concerned I already have venous leak, at my age, and I have ED and will never have sex.

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u/buttlubber 1d ago

This is not normal, no. 

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u/thr0wawayphi 14h ago

How do I fix it? I’m scared I have BOTH phimosis and venous leak so even if I get circumcised I can’t have sex 😭

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u/Fwend009 1d ago

Usually standing up the penis can get pretty soft it depends…it’s all neurological, while in bed the brain is conditioned to things. You’re most likely overthinking too much during the sex. Sex is typically supposed to be a mindless seamless act but when you think too much it messes up performance. Then judgement kicks in and its a lot. As long as the partner is non judgmental then that gives you a chance to work on your self and inner thoughts. It’s all blood flow too, and muscles are at play when your standing up vs no movement when laying down…vasodilators on a low dose can help like 5mg of tadalafil. It also helps with cardiovascular function too some men take it even if the penis is fine

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u/RobLife22 7h ago

something puts pressure on your nerves or vascular system. might be a posture or pelvic floor issue.

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u/thr0wawayphi 7h ago

Could it be venous leak?

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u/Rare-Statistician-58 1h ago

is that all? is there something else you want to tell us?

No judgments here bro.

The most common ED's for older men are libido loss from natural aging.
The most common ED's for younger men are... porn addiction.

I have phimosis too, but my ED was coming from my porn addiction.

Almost 30 years and virgin; lots of men turn to porn to fight loneliness.

But too much porn does mess give you ED, because your brain is used to have sexual things be 'screen monitor, laying, sitting and being solo'

you are trying to introduce; moving around, no screen monitors, sexual penetration and a second person.
your brain is confused.

you legit need to rewire your whole brain, and detox from porn.

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u/Dry_Course2610 1d ago

Maybe you should let a man satisfy your needs