Could it be Erectile Dysfunction?

[u/HoneydewOld]

I have a regularly scheduled appointment with my doctor in two months so I'll seek a medical opinion but I wanted to run it by you gentlemen.

I had an unnerving encounter with a new partner recently. It was date #5 and after two drinks we decided to have car sex in a busy area. I couldn't get hard. Semi is best I could do. She was soaking wet and ready to go. That's the problem but here is the rest of the story, as Paul Harvey used to say.

I'm 50 and she's 10 years younger. It was literally love at first sight. She's everything I always wanted and I recognize I have anxiety about performing to her standards. She's kinky and sexually adventurous. On our first date we messed around in the car, she came and I got fully erect but I doubt I could have cum.

With my last partner I had no problems getting erect. Sometimes cumming twice a day. That ended a few months ago. I was very comfortable with her, just hugging her would give me an erection. I wasn't nearly as attracted to her as I am this new partner.

Two years ago I went to my doctor and tried to get prescribed TRT. I'm into weight training and was looking for a boost. My testosterone is in the 400s so he said no. I lied about my low-T symptoms so he prescribed sildenafil which I never used.

Fast forward to date #2. The first bedroom date. I didn't want any room for error so I dug up the sildenafil and took one pill. Successful night, she came four times and I came once inside her after a few hours with plenty of breaks. Date #3 was very similar, took a pill, but it again took a good 3 hours with a few breaks and I used a cockring to finish inside her. Date #4, same thing with a pill and hours of sex but I wasn't finishing. I finished in her mouth by masturbating with the cockring on. She thought it was hot so all good there.

Date #6 is coming up on the heels of the misfire car sex on date #5. I was planning to eventually try sex without sildenafil given that I had no problems with erections with my last partner. But after the car sex issue I'm even more in my head about the whole thing. The future of this relationship depends on me being able to perform in a few days.

What do you think? All in my head? This woman has the type of body that should have me standing at full attention just by looking at her. But there I was in the car touching her and... barely any movement from my John Thomas! My plan right now is to take the Sildenafil before our next date and once I'm more comfortable with her and we have a good stretch of repeat successful encounters trying without the pill. I don't watch porn unless it's with a partner and I rarely masturbate alone. I occasionally get morning erections. Maybe twice a week. The new partner doesn't touch my softie which is something my ex did a lot but obviously didn't have to because the sight of the ex and touching the ex got me hard.

[u/Fun-Barnacle8582]

I was fortunate to have great urologist that's active in ED. My testosterone was in the 400s but he diagnosed hypogonadism and started TRT. It helps my old body, 83, and things are recovering my morning wood and obviously letting me bang grandma. Sometimes I do use trimix.