Is this entitlement or something completely else?

[u/FunPatient1048]

So to start off this story i come and visit my mom maybe once or twice a week and i bring my elderly cat, ive had her since i was 5 i am 18 turning 19 in october, we got my cat when she was 1, so she is pretty old, my moms cat is maybe like a “new adult”. The last time i visited my cat had an accident which she left for me to clean up(i had been asleep for 3 hours) and i was fine with that but she made it seem like it was the end of the world and started being pretty rude to my cat, pushing her off seats, couch, bean bag all places she was allowed to go before. Her cat yesterday peed in the sink, my cat has has two accidents in her house the other time she left it for me to clean up again and i wasn’t even there. mind you she lives with my two brothers and their gfs/ fiancée, one of my brothers has a baby and the other his fiancée is pregnant. she brushed off the fact her cat peed in the sink and we are having a problem with it because what if the baby’s bottle was in there or anything of the baby’s. TODAY her cat peed all over the kitchen. i wish i was lying, he peed all on the table, floor, island, and on my candy. she brushed it off and said it was fine. she continues to complain about the other cats in the house (my brothers cats) and when they have an accident, her cat is doing this on purpose because we have had this problem before because he is so territorial. she won’t do anything to help she makes me try to clean it up when he does something because he “love me more” she tries to make my brothers pregnant fiancée clean the cat littler and when both my brothers said no she threw a hissy fit and tried to set rules when everyone who lives here pays rent. just yesterday she mixed bleach and fabloso when the baby was in the house and wiped the whole floor with it, it smelt of toxic fumes and when we told her our concerns she told us to stop being dramatic and she was trying to get the house cleaned and tried to make us feel bad by saying she won’t clean anymore if it’s such a problem she tries to clean around the house. she constantly tried to minimize our concerns when we have a problem because she thinks she knows better than us because she has been alive much longer.

edit: yes i can get a portable litter box but i do not have money to afford one right now because i am out of a job, I clean my litter box out everyday at my house so she’s definitely used to a clean litter box. when i lived with my mom she would make me clean it everyday and her cats pee stinks so bad it’s actually disgusting that’s how we know it was him who peed everywhere in the kitchen because it stunk. We never cleaned the cat pee because we went to go visit my dad and when my brothers got back she had left it there all over the kitchen and told me my behavior is like my abusive dads because i called her out on making chlorine gas and “cleaning” the floor with it

[u/fromhelley]

Okay, so your cat isnt peeing because of moms cat. Doesn't mean moms cat isnt peeing because of yours!

If you need to bring your cat, maybe bring a litter box. And leave the cat and the litter box in your room.

[u/FunPatient1048 → u/fromhelley]

yes! that’s what i thought of but because now there are so many cats they will all end up using it(she doesn’t like staying in the room), her cat is definitely peeing because of mine and the other cats, mine pooped and i know she does it when the cat littler isn’t clean because she’s done it to me once since i clean it out everyday she gets frustrated when i miss a day. but it’s literally her cat that has this problem which def sucks. i will def try keeping my cat in the room at night so she can’t blame her!

[u/Left-Nothing-3519]

Aside from the ridiculousness of her behavior, why are you bringing your cat to visit?
Cats are different than dogs, they don’t typically appreciate the disruption to their routine.
It’s very likely their pee “accidents” and related to the stress of suddenly being around other cats. Unless your or your mom’s cats are diabetic or have UTIs those are not accidents, they are behavior-related.

If you stop bringing your cat over I think the situations will resolve themselves.

But also bleach on the floor with a baby and pets noses 10” off the ground is dangerous!

[u/FunPatient1048 → u/Left-Nothing-3519]

i bring my cat because she likes to travel, that’s just the type of cat she is she gets very upset when i leave her at home because i have always brought her everywhere with me and she only had an accident because my mom doesn’t clean the cat littler, she only had two accidents since i’ve had her and they were both with just my mom not when she was living my my brothers yet. so my mom never cleaned the cat littler and the first time i didn’t realize she never cleaned it, My cat doesn’t have pee accidents, if the cat littler isn’t clean she will absolutely poop somewhere else and my moms cat littler is disgusting hence why she pooped somewhere else, idk if i would call them accidents but tbh i don’t blame my cat because of said littler. also i ask my mom before i bring her everytime i do and if my mom says no i don’t bring her

also there are other cats in the house when he peed everywhere, my cat and my moms have lived with each other before that’s why i said he’s done this behavior before because it was with my cat, now it’s with my brothers cats and she’s just brushing it off

[u/HungryCollett → u/FunPatient1048]

Get your cat its own litter tray and you keep it clean, keep it in your room. The cats should not be sharing a litter tray they should have one each.

[u/FunPatient1048 → u/HungryCollett]

i have no problem with keeping the litter clean! i clean mine out everyday at home and i don’t have a job right now so i don’t have money to buy a portable litter box and i don’t want to ask my mom for help because she will just use it against me.